Post # 1
My parents are footing our entire wedding bill and the budget is slowly climbing higher and higher. Partly because we chose a ridiculously expensive venue (even though I’m madly in love with it) and our guest list is bigger than we thought it would be and partly because my mom is having me add some things she wants.
My parents have the money to pay for it. They haven’t questioned anything on the budget. They don’t mind. But… I just can’t help shake this guilty feeling. We could pay off Fiance car AND buy a new car with the money we’re spending. Or put a big dent in our mortgage payment.
And the bottom line is IF Fiance and I were paying for this ourselves we would have a very, very different wedding. Not to say that I don’t love everything we’re doing, because I do, but if we were paying for this I know I’d be more frugal and cut a lot of costs because simply put we wouldn’t be able to afford it. We’re a young couple (will be 23 and 25 at time of wedding) and Fiance is a full-time student.
Anyways, now that I’ve rambled enough I will stop. I’m just wondering if anyone else is feeling guilty about the cost of their wedding? I am so excited for our big day but can’t shake that feeling of guilt even though my parents are in no way MAKING me feel that way…
Post # 3
Be thankful and enjoy it 🙂 I get where you are coming from though, my parents have been overly generous to the point I don’t even know where they got the money to give us.
Sorry if this is rude, but do you know if you’re under the typical wedding price in your area? FH and I are WAY below average and this thought helps me when I feel guilty 😛
Post # 4
If they arent complaining and can afford it, dont worry and just roll with it. The only reason I’d have a problem with it is if I knew they were paying for it and couldnt afford it or had to sacrafice aspects of their own life.
Post # 5
@SimplyChic11: Thank you! I am very thankful and grateful for sure and have been telling my parents THANK YOU a lot, so I guess that’s all I can do, right? 🙂
We are right around the average cost. I’m Canadian and I read somewhere the average cost in Canada is $25,000 – not sure how current that figure is. We’ll be within $1-$2K of that (either over or under depending on how many RSVP’s we get, our biggest cost is FOOD!)
Post # 6
@girlwiththeredhair: I feel the EXACT same way, glad to know I’m not the only one. I just keep thinking, I’m their only daughter so this is gonna be the only wedding they have to pay for! haha
Post # 7
@Nicoley1985: I am also the only daughter so have been telling myself the same thing 😉 Haha. Glad there are others out there feeling the same way!! Even though my parents have helped me out A LOT my whole life I am also fiercely independent and try not to ask for help unless absolutely necessary so it’s been hard for me to not feel a bit guilty!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t worry too much. Yes, food and guest list is a huge part of that and chances are your parents WANT to feed people well and want guests there. I bet they are inviting people they know as well, so no worries.