Post # 1
I’m feeling a tad bit guilty here.
FI’s birthday is on Friday. So far, I got him a new set of sheets for his bed. They didn’t cost a lot…around $30. He’s been hinting at a new blazer or a vest to wear. I am a bit broke right now. I’m paying for my grad school out of pocket, plus some medical bills, and other things. He took me on a trip for my birthday, paid for the hotel room and everything we did. I know I cannot drop that amount of money on his present.
I’m feeling guilty that I can’t spend what he can. In some ways, I feel like I should, because I know what he pays for rent and what he makes. I do make more money than him, but right now, I have more bills to pay. I do a decent job of managing my money, but I’m not quite as good at it as he is. I feel like I’ve failed him, because I haven’t put away enough money for his present.
Now, he would never, ever say that. He’s not a materialistic person, there are very few things he actually wants. I could get him something else, but the least expensive blazer I’ve seen is $98.00, and I haven’t had much better luck with vests.
Should I just get him the sheets? Or should I try to spring for something else? Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated!!! 🙂
Post # 3
That is a hard one. Could you plan a romantic but cheap date instead of buying him something. A candlelit dinner, you in something sexy, soft music, a shoulder rub, whisper endearments in his ear, serve him a terrific meal, a foot rub after dinner, dancing, then present him with the sheets wrapped up with a poem about how you love him and want to do x.y.z between those sheets with him someday. Make it an unforgettable memory.
Post # 4
That is a good idea! I put a little twist on it. We are currently in a LDR, and he is coming home this weekend, so that helps. He’ll be staying with his parents, though. I ended up getting him new sheets for his bed and I bought a set of baseball tickets for us. He hasn’t gotten to go to a game in a few years and it should be a good game, so that will be fun!
I wish I could do more. I know that sometimes, I get him a more extravagant gift than what he gives me, and that’s okay. It just happens sometimes. Sometimes, he does more for me, it’s just the way it works. It’s hard for me to accept that, because I do love to give gifts. I’m working on it, though!
Post # 5
maybe a gift card to a store that carries the types of blazers/vests he likes, so that he can put that money toward the purchase of one when he finds one he likes?