Post # 1
Darling Husband and I went to a wedding about a month ago. We sent an off-registry gift that we knew the couple would like and received a lovely thank you note for it.
In retrospect, I am worried that we came across as cheap because the gift cost a little over $100 and I see so many posts here saying that people should gift $100 per guest.
If it makes a difference, I’m a stay at home mom, we had to travel 3+ hours each way to the wedding and pay a sitter to stay overnight at our home with our son and for a hotel room (cheapest we could find was $300 for the night.) I was unable to attend the bridal shower but did send a $60 gift. So although our wedding gift was only $100 value, we spent more than $600 to attend the wedding.
If the concensus is that we ought to have spent more on the wedding gift, is there anything we can do about it now? I’m hoping I’ll get reassurance that we come out okay in this situation.
Post # 3
Our standard gift at weddings is $50 and that’s for both of us. There is no right or wrong amount – give what you are comfortable with.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I wouldn’t worry about it. You sent a lovely gift, and no bride I know is keeping score against her guests.
Post # 5
@Jijitattoo: I’m sure you being there was the present they really wanted. Its not a fundraiser. its a wedding. I’m sure the couple is very thankful for your gift.
Post # 6
I think your gift was more than reasonable and generous!
Post # 7
That’s what I would have given for my hubby and I!!!
Post # 8
You picked out a lovely gift and took time and money to spend the day with them. That is the important part. Every circle is different in what is standard for weddings. Even if something IS standard, you are never obligated to spend more than you can afford.
Post # 9
Wow, $100 per person is ridiculous in this day and age, especially if you are traveling to attend the wedding. I’m sorry, but we simply don’t have money for that unless you are a really close friend or relative. I would not feel guilty. You gifted what you could, and what I would say is very generous!