Post # 1
We went into our wedding planning thinking of not registering at all, but we’ve had requests to do so to give folks some direction. We decided to keep our registry list small and wrote down the items that we’ll consider. We are around 30 so already have TONS of stuff – honestly tons of crappy stuff, from right after college, purchased just to be utilitarian but not lasting or good quality.
So we’ve decided to take the opportunity to upgrade to items that will really last. A GOOD set of knives that can cut carrots without pain and sawing. A matching set of silverware. Nice sheets. Lasting pots and pans that won’t go to dust in 5 years.
We’ve started to add some things down, and now looking at what we have on our “test” registries, I just feel so greedy! There are some items that are less expensive, but overall the price points are high! However, we don’t need a set of ktichen towels or measuring cups. I’m pretty conflicted about it. We went into this thinking “nah, we don’t need much”, but now when we pick and choose the few items we would like, things that will last the test of time, it just seems ridiculously expensive overall and presumptuous even. Not sure what to do.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
I would add the option of vouchers to the registry so guests can choose to contribute towards a gift. Dont worry about the price too much, people know bride and groom want good things they wouldnt normally buy themselves
Post # 4
We were/are in your shoes where we have some older and not-so-great items from when we first moved in together and we used our registry as an opportunity to upgrade some of our things and to get some pricier appliances that we’ve always wanted but didn’t splurge on (e.g. Kitchenaid mixer).
It’s okay if your registry has nicer things on there and keep in mind people don’t have to shop from your registry. They always have the option of giving you cash or gift cards. Further, people don’t have to get you the whole set of something; for example, they can gift you 4 of 8 wine glasses. It’s more important to put things on there that you really want and love and let your guests decide what to do from there. I would rather get someone a nice pot that $100 that will last them forever rather than a cheap $20 pot that they replace in 2 years.
Lastly, if it’s really that high, people can always go in on a gift together. I’ve done that with coworkers before.
Post # 5
What are the price points though? I don’t have much under $50, and the ~$50ish things usually get bought two to four in a single gift, so they’re going much faster than we expected.
Post # 6
We have stuff on our registry that ranges from like $5 to hundreds of dollars. It’s just a list of things you want and like, not a list of things you EXPECT or DEMAND.
Post # 8
@lazy: I think so long as not everything is over $50 you are okay. 🙂
Post # 9
@leecy87: Yep, vouchers are a good idea
Post # 10
@lazy: Sounds like you and I are in the EXACT same situation… I was amazed at how quickly the registry added up. We’re mostly “upgrading” too, so most of our items are in the $50-$250 range.
I think people will understand, and if they can’t afford anything on your registry they’ll probably give a gift card or cash.
Post # 11
I’m so glad I found this post. I am going through the same feelings about our registry too! It’s all stuff that would be nice to have, since our house is full of what I like to call “single people stuff”…the stuff that gets passed to the single friends when someone gets married. Nice to have, but not necessarily what we need.
What we really NEED is money to repair/upgrade some things in our townhouse so we can sell it. I wish I knew a nice way to ask for money!