(Closed) feeling guilty coworkers not invited

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Don’t feel bad you hardly know them. I’m sure they are not expecting an invite.

Post # 4
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Don’t worry. You haven’t known them very long; no one can feel entitled to an invite. The fact that they are asking about your wedding shows that they care about YOU and not just an invite to a party. Looks like there’s the potential for making friends down the road?

Unfortunately, we can never invite EVERYONE to our weddings. So don’t feel guilty. People understand!

Post # 5
Member
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Seriously don’t feel bad…  I had to do the same thing.  They understood.  I would still discuss the wedding with them (only when they asked) and just throw in “yeah, its just going to be a small FAMILY wedding”… they got the picture as too why i didn’t invite anyone from work…

Im sure they will understand…. especially since your probably not really close with anyone from work yet.  

Post # 6
Hostess
4669 posts
Honey bee

I know I’ll feel the same when I send out my wedding invites. And I’ve been at my job since June, but I don’t think I’ll send out invites to co-workers just so it’s not awkward when some get one adn others don’t.

Post # 7
Member
218 posts
Helper bee

I am feeling the same way!

I started a new job a couple months before I got engaged, so all of my co-workers ask about my wedding planning constantly, and are super excited for me, but I am on a tight budget, and I’m only inviting family and VERY close friends. I work with almost ALL girls, so if I were to invite some but not others, I think it would cause a lot of stress and jealousy in the workplace.

I’m not letting it get to me, because most people are very understanding. If any of them ask, I have been explaining this to them, and even though I would love for them to be there, I just can’t afford to invite EVERYONE.

As of right now, I will be having a small open-invitation-for-coworkers get together after the wedding to celebrate with them!

Post # 8
Member
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Would you feel bad if you weren’t invited to their weddings?  That’s the criteria I use all the time.  And definitely you should make sure you don’t talk too much about the wedding planning, but if they’re asking they might just like to hear about it without expecting anything.  I know I tend to find that kind of thing interesting, without needing to be at the event. 

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