(Closed) Feeling guilty every time I don't work out – advice please!

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
456 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I felt like that for a long time after I lost a bit of weight (around 30 lbs) – think it just comes with the turf.  I’ve gotten a lot better since I had to rest because I had 2 surgeries on my knee last year.  even when I was unable to train like I wanted to, I still kept up with the healthy eating for the most part and managed to keep all the weight off. 

seeing that I could do it without my insane exercise schedule really helped me and now I’m much better at taking rest days since I know the importance of listening to my body and keeping myself injury free.

right now I’m training for an ironman triathlon and knowing that the $500 entry fee is non refundable is really driving the point home.. 😉  are you interested in any sort of races?  (bike, running, etc)  maybe signing up for one and following a regimented training plan (which includes rest days) might help.

Post # 4
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The important thing is to not completely fall off the bandwagon. I never really understood this attitude, but Darling Husband does it sometimes and I know a LOT of women fall prey to it: You skip working out for a day or two, or you eat something unhealthy like pizza for lunch, and next thing you know, you’ve declared it a “fat day” or a “fat week” and all other healthy habits are out the window.

I find that if I’ve got ‘the guilt’ for not working out, I make myself feel better by eating exceptionally healthy that day — like, stick to light salad with red wine vinegar for dressing and a grilled chicken breast. And maybe I’ll do a couple sets of pushups just to feel like I did SOMETHING, anything at all. Between those two things, all guilt is gone and I feel like I’m still on the skinny-girl wagon!

Post # 5
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Spideykiss:  I think you’re just scared that you’ll fall off the bandwagon completely, and that one missed workout will lead to another, etc.

I think this actually might not be a bad mentality to have. You’re holding yourself accountable.

You could always try to squeeze in a mini workout when you’re having one of those busy days. It takes less than 5 minutes to do 3 sets of 15 squats or lunges. Heck, sometimes I do those in the washroom at work when no one else is in there lol. Little things all add up, right? Then you don’t have to feel completely useless.

Post # 7
475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ultimately there has to be a balance. While I agree it’s not good to let yourself fall back in to old habits, complusive exercising can become a real problem – I have a friend who struggles with it and it’s seriously painful for me to watch. It doesn’t sound like this is a problem for you yet, but I would keep an eye on the guilt. When you lose that much weight, it’s easy to get sucked in to the idea that your self-worth is based around your weight and you’re being “bad” if you don’t stick to your diet or exercise “as much as you should”. Healthy habits are good, but not if the only end goal is to be skinny. Again, NOT saying that this is the case for you, but just something to be mindful of. Try to remember that the number on the scale doesn’t change who you are as a person 🙂

Congrats on the weight loss though – it sounds like you did it in a very healthy way and that’s something to be applauded!

Post # 8
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My advice- schedule set rest/recovery days for yourself.  Your body needs them!  I build them into my schedule, the same days each week. I always take Mondays and Fridays off.  And think of them as “recovery” instead of “don’t feel like working out today.”  

Post # 10
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My post keeps getting eaten!!  Anyway — the really short version.  It can be really dangerous to have a compulsive relationship with exercise.  Your goal should be to be HEALTHY, not SKINNY.  These are not the same!!  Remind yourself of this every day, if need be.  It is HEALTHY, not bad, to take 1-2 days of rest of week.  Your body will not fall apart — you are being good to it.  (I have to remind myself this too — I tend to overdo everything.)  You are also more likely long term to keep working out if you don’t think of it as all or nothing.  

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