Post # 1
i recently just got married in September and had an amazing dream wedding. My fiance and i were engaged for about a year and a half.When i met my fiance i weighed about 135-140 pounds and once we moved in together the outings and cooking began, so i gained 15 pounds. i told myself i will be happy if i get back to weighing 135-140 on the wedding day. I ended up losing close to 15 pounds so i was about 140 on my wedding day. When i got my pictures i got so depressed and dissappointed in myself. I should have lost more weight and worked harder to lose more weight. I keep reading about these amazing weight loss stories and I get mad at myself for not losing more weight. My journey is not finished i have not gained or lost more weight. My goal is to be between 130-135. I am more worried for hitting the goal, because once i do and will see the great results i will then feel more guilty for not have lost it before the wedding. I know it sounds crazy, but it has been eating me up and everyone thinks i am crazy. does anyone else feel like me?
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad! 15 lbs is quite a bit. Just use that frustration to lose more weight and to keep it off – that’s the hard part.
Post # 4
Take a deep breath and tell your mind to stop putting yourself down.
Weight is not tied to beauty nor should be EVER tied to the love you have for yourself. Guilt limits your own self development and puts barriers to what you can do for yourself.
Give yourself compassion, wedding takes a lot of planning and your time is taken up by that. Did you have a great time at your wedding? Was it memorable ?I suggest go back to those pictures and look at them with a more self love.
Regarding weight, if it is a goal for you, I would, in a healthy lifestyle, take the steps to change your diet and activity to what your body needs to live. In addition, one thing at a time. You were planning a wedding, now it is time to re focu on yourself by first loving yourself and then taking care of yourself.
YOu are beauitful and you are honest with yourself, you can do anything you put your mind to but feeling guilty about what you should have done or would have done does not nurture you.
Post # 5
You can’t be so hard on yourself! You are a beautiful woman, and I’m sure you looked completely ravishing at your wedding.
The wedding is over with and there is nothing you can do about it now, there is no sense in beating yourself up over something you can do nothing about. Instead of focusing on what you think you “should” have done, focus on what you DID! You lost 15 pounds! 15 pounds when you weren’t even overweight to begin with is no small feat! Seriously, that is awesome!
Also it may help to remember that no matter what the number on the scale says you will always be able to find something you don’t like about your body. You will never be 100% happy with your body, unless you stop focusing on what you hate and start focusing on what you like. It is all about perspective. If you don’t like something change how you look at it. 🙂
You are gorgeous! Now keep reminding yourself that, it will eventually stick! *HUGS*