(Closed) Feeling guilty over not inviting family I have *nothing* in common with

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 18
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11520 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@blushpinkbride:  yep – we’re not inviting FH’s dad’s side of the family (and his dad is still alive).  They’re very simlar to what you describe, many are half siblings, and FH hasn’t met the majority of them.  The last time he saw them was about 9 years ago at his grandmothers funeral.  One of them got a day pass from prision to attend the funeral (he was escorted in cuffs and shackles..) and had arranged for a significant amount of marijuana to be left in the bathroom at the church which he had intended to smuggle back in to prision….

Post # 19
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1833 posts
Buzzing bee

OP – do not invite these people.  When we are planning a wedding for one of my DD’s we think about: (no certain order here)

Do I interact regularly/socially with this person?

Would I have them to my home for dinner?

Do I only see this person at family weddings and funerals?  If so, why?

Do we at least exchange Christmas cards?

Would this person recognize me if I passed them on the street?

And, my personal fave, do I see my gynocologist more than I see this person?

That last one will really help you red line people from the list.  Invite those with whom you have a warm relationship; those who are important to you; those whom you truly care about and love.

DNA is NOT an automatic pass on the guest list.

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@hermom:  Oh, I am *busting* up over the gyno comment! I think you need to start a post-“deciding whom to invite to your wedding.”

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