(Closed) Feeling guilty over registry

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@smiles4jo:  You shouldn’t feel greedy. People are only going to get you what they can afford. I think this day and age, most people live on their own prior to getting married, so most things on a registry are an upgrade.

Get over the guilt lady! 

Post # 4
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276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Would it offset the guilt if you added a charitable donation option? Just an idea.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Don’t worry! If someone doesn’t want to buy it for you, they won’t. But there will be guests who want to get you something unique so you think of them when you use it.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My Fiance felt the same way at first.  HE would never pay that much for china, so he couldn’t imagine asking someone else to.  But we aren’t saying “BUY ME THIS!”  It’s just there in case someone wants to know what we prefer.  We too both have most of what we need.  And I totally registered for the ice cream maker!  We don’t have nice china though, or good knives, or a few little baking things and some stuff for the extra bathroom. 

My family loves to buy gifts, that’s just how we are.  I’d rather they know that it’s something we’ll like than just guess.  I don’t need or expect gifts from anyone, and they know that.  There’s plenty of little stuff on there for people who can’t or don’t want to spend $300 on the knives.  I’m not even really telling anyone where we registered – I’m sure my mom will, but it’s just there if they find it. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@smiles4jo:  Its nothing wrong with being blessed and you should not feel guilty about it. Be thankful for everything you have now and the many blessings to come. You have many people that would love to have your problem; having everything you need and most of everything you want. That’s actually something to be happy and grateful about not guilty. Enjoy yourself hun, its ok.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

All your doing is giving people options. Atleast if you list things youd love to have then people will know youll really appreciate the gift. We have the new dyson fan on our registry which is so insane in my mind but its there if someone is interested. Dont feel guilty. We go through it every once in awhile. Its normal I think but your doing well.

Post # 9
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2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No not greedy.

Though when I was at a store registering the lady suggested I register for a serving bowl and serving plate that would match my plates. I did. But when I got home I went online to see the list.  That bowl and plate ended up being like 150 for one of them!!! Now THAT is something that I could NOT keep on the list. 150 for a bowl. No way. lol

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I was about to suggest registering at Bed, Bath, and Beyond, but then I saw you’re from Canada…I don’t know if they have those there, or if the prices are comparable. We put ours on that registry, and it was normally $80. If you have a 20% off coupon, you could get it for $64.

  If it makes you feel better, Fiance and I had difficulties scanning things at first. We were almost afraid to put things on our registry! Eventually, we both loosened up, and it went well. We put the ice cream maker on our registry and it was actually one of the first things purchased (one of our groomsmen and his girlfriend gifted it to us).

  I like seeing a variety of things on a registry. You never know, people may go in on an expensive gift. People will choose what they can afford, no worries :-).

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s natural to feel that way – we did too! When we moved in together, we had to buy loads of stuff for the move – so that meant we as little as we could – knifes set for $22 and utensils for $14.99 from Target, etc.

So when we registered we put lots of upgrades on our registry.

We took a few days away from our regsitry and then went back on and took off some stuff we really didn’t need, or want (ie: $160 picture frames, etc.)

Then, right after went sent out our Save-The-Date Cards, we received our first gift – the last gift we thought we would get – our only luxury gift – a dual zone wine cooler! I realized that some people really want to get those lavish things that the bride/groom would probably never purchase for themselves. Now, that didn’t make me want to run out and put all sorts of ridiculous stuff on my registry, but it made me feel better. Plus, we have items in all sorts of price-points so we know we can appeal to everyones budget.

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