(Closed) Feeling guilty that I felt a little disappointed…..

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
1547 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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lovepuppies978 :  I feel like many women feel this way but it’s not spoken of because we should just be thankful for a happy baby. But it happens and I see no shame in it! I always envisioned myself with boys and had two girls. Once you’re holding that little baby in your arms you’ll never feel how you are feeling today. The second time around I was hoping for another girl!

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What you are going through is called gender disappointment.  It is estimated that 1 in 5 pregnant ladies go through it.  But of course, no one talks about it because society says we have to be happy that the baby is healthy or that we are having a baby period.  Oh, and if the child ever finds out, they can be messed up by it.  

I have an extreme case, which I am in counciling for.  Not everyone gets over it by buying a cute outfit.  I actually HATE gender specific clothes for babies, boys and girls, ironically.  If this goes on longer than a few weeks, let your OB know.  My OB works with a councilor for both issues like this and PPD (and sorry, but gender disappointment can be a warning sign of latter PPD).  

Post # 18
1908 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Trust me, when he’s an adolescent, you’ll be glad he’s a boy. Girls are scary at that stage lol.

Post # 19
2514 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I was so sure my first was a girl. I was flabbergasted when he showed off his goods at our anatomy scan. Now I can’t imagine having anyone else.  He’s so perfect and funny. 


I’m pregnant with out second and I honestly can’t decide if I want a girl or a boy this time. 2 boys would be so much fun. I know boys. But a little girl would be great too. 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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lovepuppies978 :  I felt like this too, but let me assure you, that having a little boy is amazing!!! And nobody loves their Mama more. 🙂 You are in for a world of fun and more love than you can even imagine!

Post # 21
4253 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I have never had gender preferences, but I have been wrong in what I “felt” every time, lol.  I have both, and I love boy clothes and I love all the ways he is so different from my girls.  Boys are super sweet and love their mamas so much!  

Post # 22
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I think it’s so normal!!  I thought I was probably having a girl due to everyone saying I was and when we saw blue I was so shocked!  I had actually always wanted a boy but was just surprised!  But omg dressing him is SO FUN!  And even though I assumed he’d be my husbands mini me he’s Mine!!!! The mama/son bond is out of this world.  I now totally would love to have only boys 🙂 

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