(Closed) Feeling guilty…and a bit regretful

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mainejen:  Sell it on ebay or donate it to a wedding rental store?

Post # 4
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@LuvMySailor:  This. At least another bride can get good use out of it. You probably don’t have time to do it before this weekend, but at least you will recoup your costs somehow. I would even post on Craigslist.

Post # 5
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992


Post # 6
853 posts
Busy bee

Keep in mind, these are just things. Your wedding is in two days and it will be beautiful! You can always sell these things online, or donate them. In the grand scheme of things, these little expenditures will seem like such a small price for such a joyous day!

Post # 7
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that’s a natural reaction, especially with something like a wedding where you are spending so much money. I got to the day before the wedding, and I felt so incredibly guilty that I made such a big deal about having plastic tablecloths. After so many fights over them, Darling Husband ended up taking me to 3 different stores to find a bolt of tulle to use as on overlay. I hated them initially when I looked at them in our apartment, but when we actually got them outside on the tables, they looked fine. I felt awful.

The centerpieces ended up looking a lot more modern than everything else. I wished I had just spent time saivng up more jars and used themm to create a centerpiece. But I put them out anyway because I know Darling Husband loved them. And they looked fine. So maybe try to find a compromise–what you want to keep and use and what to just forget about. Otherwise, there were a lot of things that we got and never made it out. It happens. Is there anything you can return? Would that help. Otherwise, maybe just knowing it’s normal will make you feel better. And who knows, maybe you can use the necklace or hairclip for something else.

Post # 8
52 posts
Worker bee

I don’t think there is a bride on the planet that didn’t buy something she either didn’t end up using, or didn’t like. Just be glad you don’t have 3 dresses! ROFL

And head over to the classified section when you are ready and offer that stuff to another bride to be! it’s all good. 🙂

Post # 9
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@mainejen:  my wedding is in 2014 and i dont care for my bridal jewelry already lol

so i have stoped buying shit lol it sucks caz i feel like im doing nothing for my wedding but waiting ; ( its made me very blue

Post # 10
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t be hard on yourself, we put a $900 deposit on a place that we ended up needing to change and won’t be getting that deposit back. You’re spending is nothing compared to what we wasted. Just enjoy your day!

Post # 12
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@mainejen:  we had to change our date (friends got pregnant and one is graduating same week as wedding was) and I had just printed out Save-The-Date Cards so had to pay to print out more plus I am paying to change tickets of my family who had already booked flights before I changed the date.  But I am happier as more people are now coming.  Enoy your wedding!!!!

Post # 13
2577 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It happens.

I bought 6 different pairs of earrings and 4 different pairs of shoes.

Thank god I got the dress right the first time!

Enjoy, don’t feel guilty. This wedding thing is a one time gig!

Post # 14
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t feel guilty!

Hope you have a wonderful wedding day!

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