(Closed) Feeling guitly, I didn’t hire my friend to photograph my wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would have done the same. If it makes you feel any better, it’s just business, and you probably didn’t hurt her feelings any.

Post # 5
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

She sounds like an acquaintance more than a friend. Of course photography budget means the whole budget. I think it’s a little presumptuous of her to expect you pay for plane ticket + lodgings, and not itemize that in the estimate to meet your actual budget. I wouldn’t feel guilty. I’m sure you can find someone just as good within your budget (or your budget + the extras she was expecting). Is it a Destination Wedding wedding? Maybe she wanted a paid vacation.

Post # 6
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would have done the same thing, too! Don’t feel guilty at all :). A budget is a budget.

Post # 8
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@loveknows: You should not feel guilty… You did what you could


Post # 9
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Business is business. You have to do what is best for you and stay under budget if that is your goal.

I have a few friends of friends photographers in mind and I don’t plan on feeling guilty if I decide not to use them.

Post # 10
1962 posts
Buzzing bee

Exactly what do you feel guilty about?  I am not quite getting it.

Post # 11
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had a similar issue with someone who I thought was a friend of mine. The difference was my “friend” wanted quite a bit more than our budget and was very inexperienced. I told her that we couldn’t afford that much. She said she could do less for less money, but the whole inexperienced thing bothered me. If I’m going to pay that kind of money, I want someone with some experienced.

I mean if you can’t afford it, you can’t afford it…..

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