(Closed) Feeling hurt…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@rach122:  I’m so sorry that you’ve experienced this.  I’m not sure of the instances you’re speaking about, but please do not let them make you think otherwise!  I’ve seen you around here and thought you’ve been a great contribution to the site.  =) Thank you for joining and so glad to see you a part of the community.  

Post # 5
Member
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@rach122:  Not a problem!  If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to PM me at anytime!

Post # 6
Member
6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I haven’t seen your previous posts, but I do know that some of the women here are quick to attack and others are quick to jump on board with the attacking.  My only advice is to not let it get to you! 

For the most part, I’ve found that the hive is full of wondefully helpful women, so ignore the ignorant ones who are nasty and mean, as hard as it may be!  The nasty ones are just a bunch of women on the internet who have nothing better to do with their lives than put other people down instead of helping them out nicely.  Perhaps they need to do it to make themselves feel better about their boring lives, who knows?  Or, perhaps they just think they’re being honest and helpful and don’t realize how nasty and offensive they’ve come across. 

Like I said – don’t let it get to you, ignore those people and come here for the ones that are nice!

Post # 7
Member
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Rach – you started a thread meant to ruin a movie experience for others and refused to take steps to remedy it, such as writing “spoilers” in the title. You didn’t seem to care when others expressed disappointment that you were acting that way. You seem mean spirited and intent on causing trouble. 

Post # 8
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5221 posts
Bee Keeper

@rach122:  I think it’s pretty easy to figure out the Bee– but sometimes you have to sit back and see how the community works before going in all out, ya know ? When I first joined and posted, I got called out on some  things I would say.  I have learned to try and better communicate my point, be clear and to the point or to just step away from a thread if I can’t add anything constructive to it. It doesn’t always pan out, and occasionally you find yourself getting caught in the moment.  Just remember that tact and thought go a long way on this forum and you’ll be ok!

Post # 9
Member
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I do know what you’re refering to, and maybe if you’re receiving a concerning amount of negative responses, you could try to figure out what causes people to respond that way. Then consider altering your behavior just enough to avoid triggering the negative responses. And we have all offended someone accidentally, but you might want to consider taking a step back instead of defending your right to offend. There’s a difference between what you have the right to do and what you should do if you want to be part of a community. 

Post # 10
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Mrs_Amanda:  Agreed.

Sorry OP but I was pretty surprised at some of the things you were posting last night. Sometimes you need to get a feel for a community first before you start typing :-/

Post # 11
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3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MidwestBride2012:  +1

then you started a thread asking what a troll was, and then another one asking where the ‘caucasian’ boards were. No apologies saying, “I’m so sorry I didn’t mean to offend” no intention to remedy the board MidwestBride2012 was talking about. I almost NEVER comment on stuff like this. I’m sorry if I offended you and made you feel unwelcome. I looked at some of your other posts and they are GREAT! you should stick to posts that don’t look like they are trying to stir the pot and ones that are more like your earlier posts. just my $0.02. Once again, sorry if I made you feel unwelcome.

PS and if you do accidentally offend someone, I’m sure it’s happened to almost everyone on here… just apologize and try to fix the situation.

Post # 12
Member
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I feel like you thought you were being funny last night but it just came off as bratty. Your friends may think you are hilarious in real life but you can’t read tone on the internet. Maybe an opportunity to think about how your behavior played a part in this and not complain about how “mean” everyone here is.

Post # 16
Member
9483 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@rach122:  It’s great to be more conscious of the community around you.  There are so many different personalities here and it’s quite easy to fit in if you do take a step back and just observe once in awhile.

I went back and re-read your posts and can see why some people were upset last night.  Thank you for apologizing.  Let’s move on from the past and start fresh!  =) You’ll be great on here!  No need to hurry to “fit” in.  

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