(Closed) Feeling hurt… but not sure how to react…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would call you uncle or aunt and talk to them. Maybe there is a misunderstanding. Just don’t be confrtonations. Just call and say you got cousin’s message and you know he said it was a personal reason but you were wondering if it’s something you can talk about or maybe something can be done to accommodate them. If he/she says no, let it go. Maybe it really is something very personal and serious that they are uncomfortable talking to anyone about.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

🙁 I’m sorry, that is very sad.  I don’t have much advice for you I’m afraid.  Is there any way you can call the Uncle and maybe invite him and your cousin to your house for dinner without the bridal party or anyone else around?  If for no other reason so that you can see them face to face?

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mrsbruff2b:  I would go in person to see them and ask what’s up. I would explain that you were sad they couldn’t make the wedding and are doing this for them. Who cares if they feel guilty about it… they SHOULD.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I hope everything is okay with your Uncle, you should call to make sure.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would definitely try to find a way to let her know that the main offender from her point of view won’t be there.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Personally your family seems very selfish to turn down going to both of your weddings just because they dont like who else is going. This is not about them, this is about you and your special day. And if they were actually close to you, they would realize this, suck it up for you because they love you and come. This makes me feel angry for you, not sad. Its too bad you have family like this. Goodluck, hopefully they grow up.

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Your Uncle

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I personallly wouldnt want people at my wedding that dont care enough to show up for me.

 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would call and tell them that the entire purpose of the AHR is so that you can get wedding photos with them. Then ask what you can do to make that happen. Let them know you hired a photographer for the occasion. 

Unfortunately, sometimes people can be incredibly petty and there’s not much you can do after a certain point. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d call your uncle. You can probably have a more frank and honest conversation with him.

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