(Closed) Feeling hurt when seeing no’s on your RSVP list…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I was afraid that we were going to go over our guest limit so I did a dance every time we got a no! BUT, all of our closest friends and family are able to make it. If any of them had RSVP’d no I would’ve been completely bummed.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

I have some family members in Germany and was really hoping they would make it, but it was too much financially. It did upset me, but I wasn’t mad since Germany is very far away 🙂 If anyone close to us had said no without a good reason…well, they wouldn’t be close to us any longer.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I have not seen my shower invite list (if there is one yet), but I saw the evite for my bach party. One of my cousins actually lied and said she was going to be out of town, I found out it wasn’t true, not even cancelled last minute or anything. I have a feeling another close friend lied about having to attend a wedding that night, but she backs out of everything last minute, almost never comes out to begin with and always has an excuse that I can never really verify as we don’t have the same circle of friends, but there’s always a strong suspicion that she’s making it up as she won’t ever provide details after the fact, etc.

Then I was surprised at some of the people who did make it! Some girls who I”m friends with thorugh FI’s friends made it and stayed out all night! It was great! 🙂

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I invited about 10 people more than our venue can hold, and now some people my parents were sure would respond “no” have responded with “yes” so i’m holding my breath and HOPING for some no’s.  Considering MOST of the guests are the friends of my parents… I wouldn’t be too upset unless they were families that are close to me as well.

I haven’t even seen the invites for my shower, let alone a list since my mom’s friends are hosting it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I was happy when non-close people RSVPed no, but when close family did, it really hurt, especially since people knew about the date for 14 months. My husband’s SISTER didn’t come. I still don’t think I’ve forgiven her for that. She really let my husband down.

When it comes to weddings of family members (third cousins I’ve never met don’t count, obviously) I’m there barring any extensive travel that I just cannot afford.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

So far the only no’s I have received were from people that I expected to decline.  But we have just started getting them back, so I sure things could change.  I am worried that people that I am just assuming are coming might not be making it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

When it came to the wedding I was also doing Bella’s dance when we received a no because we had invited way too many people. BUT I was a teensy bit disappointed in my high school friend who didn’t show up to either the shower or the wedding. She is the person I have known the longest and I never understood why she missed the shower. She did have a medical reason for not attending the wedding though.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I havn’t had any showers or my wedding yet. But I’m interested to see who shows and who doesn’t. Mainly because I’m expecting most everyone to come. No one really lives too far away. Most are right in our little town. So it will probably get interesting & i’m sure there will be some hurt feelings. So sorry you didn’t get what you expected. I guess I would try and look at it @ least you’ll know who really cares for you and your Fiance….

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

There are definitely some people whose “no” would upset me–but those are people that I know are coming.  Other than that, I am with Bella and RoddyBride09: I’m doing a happy dance every time I get a no, because there are WAY too many people invited.  If they all show up, I will be SCREWED.  I blame this on the parents who kept adding people “as a courtesy” with the promise that they “definitely won’t come!”  Lies.  😉

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was a little hurt when family rsvp’d no, because I think a wedding is a big deal and I always make it to anything like that in the family!  A couple of those family members are now getting married, and you can bet that I’ll be there, but I guess that is just me!  I also was a little disappointed that some friends weren’t able to make it and marked no, but what really ticks me off is when they send in the rsvp marked yes and then don’t show, don’t call, no email, no I’m sorry nothing!!!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have a feeling that I will be really hurt by some of no’s. At Christmas we were all in the kitchen talking about the wedding, my family was asking questions and I think they might have been talking about it before I came in. My Grnadma asked jokeingly “What if no one comes?” I know it was a joke and just laughed it off, like “well then we’ll have a lot of beer to drink ourselves”. But I am getting the feeling that one of my aunts and uncles won’t be coming, which will stink because I have traveled all over the place for their kids first communions and graduations, etc. My Dad isn’t really involved with his family so I have always had to pay for these things myself, so I would be pretty hurt if they don’t come.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I actually felt really bad that my aunt who means the world to me since I was a kid wouldn’t be able to come.  She knew about my wedding two years ago and she knew that I was gonna make her one of our sponsors (a filipino tradition, equal to a godparent during baptisms).  She opted to go to a Turkey/Israel/Egypt vacation with my other uncle and his family.  She lives abroad so either way, my wedding or the tour, she still has to travel half way around the world… Okay, I lie, she doesn’t have to travel as long if she would go with the tour.  But still, I’m hurt. 

And she didn’t even tell me that she wouldn’t be able to come.  My uncle had to tell my mom that she’s going with them to that tour.  My uncle and his family were invited too but I had a feeling that they were not gonna come because of some issues with my mom and my aunt (my uncle’s wife). 

Oh well, sucks!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We are actually hoping for some no’s because we went over our list

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