(Closed) Feeling insecure about our daytime wedding reception (vent)

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Mode:  If your friends and family like dancing, they will dance, no mater what time of the day it is.  The more you hear about people not dancing, they are the type of people who just don’t like dancing no mater the time of the day/where the party is.

Post # 18
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This really depends on your crowd. My brother got married at 11AM on a Sunday (Columbus day weekend) and it was a blast. Everyone drank and danced and we after-partied. They also didn’t do a “lunch” or “brunch” meal they did a full-on sit down dinner type meal. It was great.

Our family/friends only need the slightest excuse to let loose though 🙂

Post # 19
1726 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I totally understand how you feel. But I think when it comes down to it, everyone will have a great time and you’ll enjoy yourselves no matter what. I know that you’re worried about people not wanting to drink or dance, but honestly things are different when it’s a wedding. It’ll be the happiest day of your life (so far)! And all these people want to celebrate that with you. As long as there’s an open bar, and time for people to sober up, I don’t think you’ll have a problem getting anyone to drink. People LOVE free 🙂 And you’ll have plenty of time afterwards to continue partying!

Post # 20
19 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had a day time wedding in long island (NYC’s equally expensive neighbor) Our venue was on the water so there were awesome views of the the Great South Bay. We had a 10am ceremony followed up 12-5 reception. I was up at 4:30am to get dressed. It was a long day. That being said… it was amazing. People danced, people drank, it was like an evening reception just with the sun up. i think if you and the groom set the party vibe, folks will follow night or day. Dont worry, it will be amazing!

Post # 21
1172 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My friend had a daytime wedding that was on the same schedule as yours. We danced our tuckus’s off! 

Post # 22
1720 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

if most of the guests are from PA and you want to have a big evening wedding why not just do it in PA. it will be much less expensive than  NYC and its not so far to plan that it would be that hard (just probably 2 or 3 visits) and you can have the big party you want

Post # 23
1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@Mode:  Would it be possible to have curtains hung over the windows during the dancing? It won’t change the time that the reception is occuring, but it could help get people more in the mood for a party. But its possible that people will want to dance regardless. As long as they’re having a good time, that’s all that counts.

And like a PP said, you’ve done more than enough to accomodate your guests already. Don’t let Future Mother-In-Law make you feel guilty about your choices. You went out of your way to make sure that the guests would have the option of booking a hotel room or not. What they decide to do is up to them.

Post # 24
3263 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@littlemisshostess:  +1 I understand that it’s a lot easier to plan the wedding in NY because you live there, but making more than 2/3 of the guest travel and having to have a daytime wedding because of it seems like it would be worth it to make the extra effort to plan the wedding in PA. 

Post # 25
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had a daytime wedding. People who liked dancing danced. People who didn’t had other things to do. It was perfect. But rest assured there was no shortage of dancing! People drank quite a bit, too.

Don’t worry so much about people having to come early. They’ll either wake up early, or stay the night before. if you had a late wedding they’d have to stay Saturday night. A night is a night – who cares if it’s the night before or the night after?

Don’t worry about having to wake up early. You’ll have a hard time sleeping anyway.

You’ll also still be energized when the wedding is over. You’ll have time to have a nice dinner with your new husband, or drinks with your friends. You won’t be too exhausted at the end of the day to consummate your marriage 🙂 It’s really great having a daytime wedding, actually.

Post # 26
1029 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I originally wanted a daytime reception but got pressured in to doing evening.  I kind of wish I had stuck to my original plans.  Everyone is going to have comments about your wedding, everyone is going to have criticisms or suggestions.  I think you just have to roll with your plans and ignore them. 

Post # 31
667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@Mode:  I am also having a daytime wedding, in an expensive wedding area.

Ceremony at 1:00. Reception 2-5. Your date on your profile is wrong, what day are you getting married? We chose Sunday, Sunday afternoon weddings aren’t uncommon. 


1) Dancing during the day. If you are dancing and the music is good, people will dance. We aren’t going to have dancing at the reception because of limited space, not allowed to have a dj, extra fees for dancing. But we are going to have an after party at a club that people can come to if they want to dance and party.

2) Push back your ceremony start time. I will be getting up at 8ish for my 1:00 ceremony start. 

3) Again push the ceremony back so it won’t be so early. I don’t know if that is enough time to help. Otherwise too bad so sad.

4) We are serving unlimited juice, pop, coffee, tea. We are buying about 30 bottles of wine from the venue and are allowed to make mimosas and spritzers out of the wine. Paying $1600 for all beverages. You don’t need hard liquor at an afternoon wedding.

5) I haven’t told many people, just my mom really. At first she was very upset but then I explained all my reasons: saving money, didn’t want a sit down stuffy meal, so my local friends can come (no way they could come to a Saturday wedding). I don’t know how to really get around this other than not everyone needs to know all the details. 


1) Yay saving money! What are you serving for food? Lunch/bruch/hor deurves are a lot cheaper than a supper meal.

2)  Yup.

3) Yes!! We are doing photos from 5-sunset. Nice not to feel rushed and stressed you need to be somewhere after. 

4) Same thing for us. Some downtime, then going to the bar. Not really much to organize other than “hey after party at Aurora’s”. 

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