Post # 1
I should say that I had an account under a different username awhile back–I deleted it because it was distracting me a bit too much from finishing up my dissertation! But now, only 9 days out from my wedding, I’m coming back for so quick advice. (ummm–yeah. might have done some lurking in the meantime!)
I bought my dress from Ann Taylor way back in October. Because they don’t ever carry the dress in stores, I had to take a stab at figuring out my size, so I ordered a 2. At the time, I weighed about 10-12 pounds more (about 124 or so–I’m 5’5″ and small boned), and the dress was clearly a bit on the small side. I couldn’t exchange the dress because I’d bought it on clearance sale, so I decided to: 1) see what could be done with alterations; and 2) see if I lost a few pounds, since I was on the upper end of my normal weight range. The dress wasn’t much too small, anyway!
And I did lose weight, pretty unintentionally. By the time I tried the dress on again in January, I was more like 119 pounds and the dress was starting to look pretty darn good. And then I dropped to 117 and I thought it was perfect.
Now, after being sick for about 6 weeks, I’m in the 110-111 pound range. Let me say that this was, in my view, not only unintentional, but also undesirable–I’ve lost a lot of my figure. And now I’m worried that I just look flatchested and ….whatever the opposite of sexily alluring is? I can’t gain the weight back in the next week; I’m perforce on a diet that’s gluten and dairy free and low in carbs. (Long story–lots of food sensitivities.)
There’s literally nothing to be done with the dress at this point, either. Sparkly belts and sashes don’t really suit the look I was going for (flowy and romantic), and it’s too late for alterations. So, somebody please just tell me that I don’t look terrible? The picture is of me, last weekend. Please ignore the random fabric in my hand! Also, the dress is sitting a bit strangely under my left arm–doesn’t usually look like that.
Thank you in advance!
Post # 3
@victorianghost: I think the dress is lovely on you. As far as feeling like you look flatchested, you could always go with a strapless padded bra or see if a seamstress can put in cups.
Post # 4
It really is a beautiful dress and I think once your hair is done/shoes on/jewelery on it’ll really complete the package.
Post # 5
Does the dress have side seams? Ask a seamstress to take a look. Honestly it doesn’t look that big though…you still have a lovely shape.
Post # 6
I think it’s lovely, and because of the style, IMPO it doesn’t look too big at all; if it were fitted that would be different, but it’s all flowy. I also don’t think you look flat-chested; you can see the curve of your bust quite clearly. However, if it’s your chest that’s bothering you, what about a padded bra? Personally I don’t think you need it, and would worry you’d look a bit ‘busty’ if you were more padded out; and IMPO that style of dress suits a slimmer figure. But, that’s just me!
But yeah, you look lovely 🙂
Post # 7
You look perfect. Really!
Post # 8
Thank you so much–you’re all really sweet, and you’ve made me feel better already. 🙂 I did try a strapless bra (a little padded), but I didn’t think it looked too different and it was super-uncomfortable, so if I look someway shapely without, I’ll probably do without. And yeah, my hair’s just up in a pretty careless ponytail, so getting that fixed will definitely help!
Post # 9
I think you look spohisticated, romantic and pretty. I really like it! I feel your figure is a good match to this style dress.
Don’t take this the wrong way, but in the chest, you are small boned. But listen…that’s ok!! All of our bodies are ok!! I am a Dirty Delete and there are times I’ve wished I could have your figure because it seems so easy. But I decided to love and accept my breasts and I get compliments all the time. I think different looks have + or -, but it’s all ok. Look, if you had my figure you wouldn’t be able to wear this dress. It looks great on you all over.
Put your dress back on the hanger, go to a spa and treat yourself. You deserve it! =)
Post # 11
I think the dress is lovely, and you look great in it! We all have body image issues (or I do, for sure) but as long as the dress fits in a way that it won’t slip down during your wedding, then I think it will be just fine. Once you have your whole wedding look (veil? fascinator? hair accessory?) and a bit of a steam to the dress you will be stunning!!
Post # 12
You look stunning! Seriously. Don’t you worry! 🙂
Post # 13
You look beautiful and not at all like you’re 8 lbs under your normal weight! Has the dress been steamed? Maybe because you’re not filling it out as much as you were before the wrinkles are more obvious. With steaming it will lay nicely. You also may want to try the stick-on padded bra (VS makes some that are reusable: http://search2.victoriassecret.com/?q=stick+on+bra) they’re a little weird at first, but after a while you forget they’re there because there is no strap digging in!
Post # 14
@Coral99: @Coral99: Thank you, you’re absolutely right. 🙂
@RoseyBee: Awww, thanks!!!
@Mrs Canuck: Yikes, dress slipping down during the wedding would be REALLY bad–whole different kind of “insecurity”! Fortunately, though, I don’t think it’s that loose. 😉 No veil or fascinator for me, but my sis-in-law’s cooking me up a good updo. I hadn’t even really noticed the wrinkles, silly me, but the dresss just got back from being pressed, so it should look much better now!
@pengoala: Thank you SO much. 🙂
@CPearson1016: Good to hear–thank you! It hadn’t been steamed before the picture, but it has now. 🙂 And thank you for the tip on the backless bra! I’ll check it out.
Post # 15
@victorianghost: I think it looks great! A strapless padded bra will do the trick.