(Closed) Feeling insecure – vent.

posted 4 years ago in Wellness
Post # 2
215 posts
Helper bee

You don’t need to lose weight for him…you need to do it for yourself. Even if you never get back to 100lbs, any weight loss will boost your confidence. Are you doing anything currently to lose weight? I found that going to group exercise classes helped motivate me…especially when you’re paying money for a membership!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by  amstudent1.
Post # 3
46673 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

buzzingbridex:  You started dating when you were heavy so it doesn’t appear that your weight is an issue for him.

I encourage you to think about living a healthy lifestyle rather than just losing weight. Anyone can lose weight.  but until we change our attitude about life, the weight will come back every time.

If you just start making healthier choices the weight will drop off until you stabilize at a weight that is right for you.


Post # 4
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It sounds like you have an amazing fiance! Take him at his word.  When you love someone, a lot of times you hardly notice weight gain, and if you do notice, it doesn’t affect your attraction!  My Darling Husband has fluctuated drastically in weight over the 4 years we’ve been together, according to the scale (from 280 to 230), and I have felt no difference in my attraction-level to him during any of his changes.

That said, what I’m hearing from your post is that you’re unhappy within yourself.  You said that you feel disgusted with yourself, insecure, etc.  THAT is a reason to change.  Also, you’re right in that dress shopping is a lot easier when you’re at a healthy weight, and engagement pics last forever so you wanna look good!  If it seems overwhelming, leave your diet the same while going to the gym for 30 minutes a day.  You don’t have to be a waif (5’0, 100 pounds?!) to feel confident and beautiful, but even a short workout does wonders physically and mentally!

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