(Closed) Feeling jealous about his bachelor party

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

Mine is similiar. My Fiance has 8 or 9 very close friends that ALL seem to want to go to Vegas for the big shebang. Only 1 or 2 of them are married, so it is not like they have a wife and kids to think about. Me, on the other hand, now live out of state and a still getting to know a lot of people. All of my friends are recently married/ have small children so they’re either broke or staying up past 10 is asking a lot! I doubt our parties will be similiar at all but the intent behind both of them will be the same… people who love us and want to spend time with us before we are married! It really is just an excuse to hang out, so whether they do it in Vegas or we have a very low key girls night I am just happy to be surrounded by people that love my Fiance and I. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Your wedding is still 5 months away. My sister threw my awesome bachelorette party about a month before the party. They may not be doing much now, but when the time comes I’m sure they will make it special!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel you, I didn’t even WANT one til his friends started planing his. I got kinda jealous as they were talking about Vegas too. ( Jealous cause it sounded cool and fun ) He has 18 groomsmen all of which single or married are down to go. So when I said well if YOUR having one I feel like I HAVE to have one now, he got all upity cause all my BM;s are married and were  like VEGAS!!!! They all wanted to leave the kids and hubby at home and party. Personally I don’t want a wild night but it was enough to get him to re-think his and he has put it off for now.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel you too. Have almost the same problem, I HATE that I’m jealous because of course I want him to have a fabulous time. As has been said above I”m trying to remind myself that it’s all about spending time with our friends. Hope yours ends up being awesome! 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Bichon Frise: Ugh, I totally feel you on this one. I have been engaged for two years and picked our BM’s around the same time. For two years they all talked about how they would have time to save up for something awesome.

Yea, flash forward to now and almost none of them have saved anything and they are complaining about being too broke to do anything but maybe a night out at the club. FI’s friends (from what I hear) are going to plan an awesome weekend for him. I don’t know what I will get at this point. I wish I had advice or words of wisdom for you, but I am in the same boat 🙁

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Believe me, you don’t need much to make a bachelorette party special. Because I was all dressed up in bachelorette gear, we got free drinks and free admission to clubs all night long. I felt like a celeb!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am pretty sure that a bachelor party just ranks higher in the minds of men, than a bachelorette party does in the minds of women.  We are also planning the wedding/showers/honeymoon.  lol

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i think lulusmom is right. Boys def do it bigger than girls. 

FI’s boys are all about doing a big trip (Vegas, New Orleans, Cancun…). Meanwhile my girls have been talking about how broke they are since the day we met lol. So I’m not expecting much for my big night out. Luckily we live in NYC so our town is already pretty exciting and I’m in Vegas almost every year with Fiance so it’s not like I’m missing out.

I did tell my girls tho that as long as we go somewhere where I can dance all night and have cute boys to dance with, I’d be happy. So I think we’re hitting up the NYC gay club circuit lol. Which is fine by me. We’ll probably get a hotel room and have a slumber party so even though we won’t be taking a trip or anything exciting we’ll have a fun staycation. 

Maybe you can just think about ONE element that you just REALLY need to have to have a great night and your girls will just have to work hard to get that for you. But I think you just have to be ok with how the cookie crumbles lol.  

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I was in exactly the same boat. DH’s friends planned him a WEEK away in the Bahamas. It was crazy. My girls on the other hand, are like yours: Students or starting out their careers, and broke. To top it off, my girls completely dropped the ball (ie planned nothing for months because they left it in the hands of another friend I told them not to hand the reins over to), and I found out just 2 days before my “party”, my sister had to take it over and my bachelorette party ended up being everyone else’s version of what they like to do. It was really disappointing. Honestly, I felt like my favourite time with them was the day before the wedding when we booked a salon to ourselves and got mani/pedis and I bought a bunch of platters and we popped a bottle of bubbly. That was perfect to me, I didn’t need the bachelorette party.

Am I still jealous of DH’s party? Heck ya. But on the other hand, I’m not sure I could have asked my friends to spend that kind of money on my bachelorette even if they could have. Once it’s all over and done with, it’ll just sort of fade out.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I know how you feel. My Fiance is having an AWESOME bachelor party, and I will likely not have a bachelorette party at all.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We should have an online amazing bachelorette party for all of us who aren’t having one 🙂

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