(Closed) Feeling judged

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
9941 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@howtobeawife:  It’s so pretty!  They’re probably jealous, don’t let it worry you.  As long as you love it and you and your husband agreed to it, it’s really none of their business anyway.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 20
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2022 - Greece

Just tell them, “with the expenses of the wedding, so our guests could be priority, we opted to get my diamond ring at a later date –  the date has come!”  With that said, they will know you were thinking of them first when your day should have been about you.  Good luck and wear it proudly!

Post # 21
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@howtobeawife:  It was clearly meant for your ER! Geez, it’s something you will wear your whole life, you should LOVE it!

Post # 22
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I wonder…

If I got a new wedding ring, I might get some comments as well, but that’s because the original ring is supposed to be a symbol of forever… not to be exchanged or traded up.

I wonder if this negative response is jealousy… or whether it is sentimentality… a sentimental attachment to what the original ring represents?

Is it really just about the money? Because, if so, that does seem a little snide.

Post # 23
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I am so concerned about this ๐Ÿ™ I want to get my diamond reset before the wedding because I want my ring at the wedding to be my forever ring, and literally the night he gave me my current ring he said “eventually we’ll get a pave band.”  Welllllllll … now I’m in a weird spot because it looks like I’m greedy.

I don’t have any advice but I can totally understand how you must be feeling ๐Ÿ™ It will pass!!

Post # 24
4844 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

None of their beeswax. It’s gorgeous. Wear it proudly. 

Post # 25
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It is gorgeous and just say he wanted to spoil you just a bit more and you’re a lucky girl – don’t let them get to you!

Post # 26
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

It’s beautiful!! Haters are gonna hate lol. But I know what you mean. If that is what you and your SO wanted, who cares!

Post # 28
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

It’s none of their business! They didn’t pay for it and I’m sure you guys didn’t sell any body organs or anything crazy to afford it so they should but out! It’s GORGEOUS!

Post # 31
5949 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@howtobeawife:  ….next time you get a comment with that judgey undertone…just remind them there are women on this earth who spend a hellofa lot more money on dumber things…personally, I can’t think of a better way to invest!

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