(Closed) Feeling judged

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

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@howtobeawife:  Yeah, I’m just saying that I can understand sentimentality as a reason in a way I can’t understand jealousy. I guess I can be prone to the former, but noe the latter!

Post # 33
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I understand how difficult that is. It must feel terrible, but if it is the ring You want and your hubby wants to buy for you.. then that is all that matters.

My fiance bought me an engagement ring where the center stone is bigger than his sister’s rings. We did something that was affordable to us and made both of us happy, so no one else’s opinions need to come into play. I got looks from them at first, but now they don’t care and don’t judge!

And it’s inappropriate for your family to try and make YOU feel awkward! They should just be happy for you!

Post # 34
804 posts
Busy bee

@howtobeawife:  Eh people will be judgemental about anything. Distract yourself from them and their silly comments by looking at your lovely ring!

Post # 35
1081 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

it’s a beautiful ring. Don’t let others opinion bother you, including your own family members. Kiss


I got few negative comments that I have changed my mind on my e-ring, and upgraded to a better diamond and setting. 

My family members and few things think I’m nut to spend so much money on my wedding bands and e-ring.  But hey, that two rings will be on your finger forever, of course you deserved to get the one you truly like.  


As long as your Fiance agreed and happy about it.  That’s all matters. 

Post # 36
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

As someone who will no doubt also be judged for the latest upgrade by some (not to my face though I am sure!) I feel you on this. Your new ring is GORGEOUS and it looks awesome with your ering. Tell ’em when they pay your bills they get a say-so. LOL

Post # 37
2393 posts
Buzzing bee



Your new band is gorgeous!

I can’t believe people could be so judgy over something that’s none of their business. It’s a totally private matter between you and your husband!

Why don’t you ask your DH for a third band — an anniversary band for example. That will really spin their heads! LOL

Post # 38
8469 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Your rings are gorgeous!  Screw what people have to say!

Post # 39
1768 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@howtobeawife:  to heck with them, unless you owe them money or you’re living off public assistance lol–to heck with what others say about how you spend your money! Enjoy your beautiful ring!

Post # 40
8035 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@Brielle:  Agreed!

Post # 41
2977 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Kinda strange that anyone would care, really. If I got a new wedding band, I don’t think many people in my life would give a flying rat’s behind! So, they are probably just bored and need something to complain about. I think it looks very pretty!

Post # 42
4251 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

so pretty!!!!  I would ignore them.  Not their business, money, or life.  

Post # 43
323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Good for you for doing something for yourself that makes you happy! I had my engagement ring restyled and got a new diamond half eternity band a few months ago, and I love them! No one in real life noticed or cared unless I pointed them out. 

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