Post # 1
So when we did our guest list months and months and months ago we had to do major cutting and had decided the magic number was 150, plus us and the wedding party makes 160.
Well with almost everyone confirmed we are looking at maybe 90 people attending. We have 43 no’s for sure and a few scragglers we are chasing down. We never imagined this many people would say no. We figured about 20-25 would not be able to attend.
What makes me feel bad for Fiance is that most of the no’s are his family. Aunts and uncles even grandparents. He will not have one grandparent there. He only has 2 grandma’s living, and we were pretty sure the one would not be able to make it due to health, but the other said no.
I was working on the seating chart this weekend and I really realized how little family he will have there.
Post # 3
I understand your situation. My Mom’s family is HUGE (I haven’t even met everyone I’m related to.) and FI’s family is about 10 people (aunts, uncles, cousins and g-ma). He won’t have many family members at the wedding. But, he can’t do anything about it and my family has welcomed him with open arms.
I think as long as your family gets along well with him; they will make sure he feels love and support during your special day (and leading up to the wedding).
Post # 4
@Mrs.RDV: My FI’s immediate family consist of him, his son, his mom and grandmother so I know what you mean. I am thankful that my family has welcomed him with open arms and he loves them as well.
Post # 5
Well, this means you will both get to spend alot of time with his family that can make it. I attended one wedding with 250+ guests and the bride & groom really had to hustle to make it around all the tables to talk with everyone.
Post # 6
WE are having a Destination Wedding so numbers are slim to begin with but when his family basically said, ‘thats nice dear, glad your having this little ‘wedding’ in mexico, but we won’t be there as we consider your first wedding to be your ‘real’ wedding so we don’t need to go to this one too’
So I think it will only be my family.
But on the flip side, I have no girlfriends so he will prob have friends there and I might have one.
Post # 7
@Oneeleven: That’s true for me too, I only have a couple friends and they are coming and he has more friends that will be there.
It is going to be nice to not have to be overwhelmed with visiting all the guests and my family loves him so that is awesome!
Post # 8
@Mrs.RDV: My Fiance will have very, very little family at our wedding. His dad could quite possibly be the only one there. His parents recently separated so his mom and her family have decided to boycott our wedding [insert eye roll] and his dad’s family lives on the other side of the country and cannot afford to fly out.
My Fiance doesn’t seem to mind too much though, he is much closer to my family than his own. Even though we are having a rather intimate ceremony (mostly just family) he has invited a few more friends and close co-workers to make up for his lack of family attendance.
Sorry to hear that your Fiance is going through this as well!