Post # 1
One of my best friends has recently gotten closer with a mutual friend of ours b/c they work together. As the weeks go by, it seems like they are getting closer and I am feeling left out. I know that a lot of it is probably just me being super sensitive but I don’t particulary care for this other girl…she is a friend of mine but not one that I want to become closer to. How do I stay close to my good friend without them getting closer and by default getting me closer to the other girl.
I feel like a 15 year old writing this but I just feel so hurt/angry about this situation that its starting to weigh on me. I can’t stop them from being friends or getting closer. What do I do?
Post # 3
Ouch, that’s a hard one. I’d invite them out every couple of weeks for a catch up or invite your friend over because you haven’t seen her for a while and want to catch up. Don’t forget that your friend could be going, “wow I haven’t seen Crazy Bee in a while, I wonder what she’s up to”. Like you said, there’s no way that you can stop them from being closer but you can keep you in their minds by keeping in touch with them on a regular basis.
Post # 4
Thanks littlemissmoo for the advice. I do hang out with my friend on a regular basis (sometimes just us two) which I prefer b/c we can talk about things we can’t talk about with the rest of our group of friends (there’s a few of us).
Do you think I have a right to be jealous?? I guess I’m worried about her “leaving me” b/c the other two will become super close. Is it stupid for me to feel this way? I feel like a young insecure teenager…what is wrong with me?
Post # 5
I think if your friend is a real friend, you don’t need to worry about her “leaving you” for someone else 🙂 Friendships evolve and change over time, it can hurt when it happens but I find it normally happens for a reason, and you get to know your real friends. Keep having your “just the two of you” dates, have faith in your friendship and you as a person (i.e. remember that you are someone people want to be friends with!), and maybe open yourself up to the possibility of new friendships yourself. Good luck – friendships can be tricky but I’m sure you will work your way through this ok 🙂