(Closed) feeling like a bit of a failure :(

posted 5 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

One word….corset. Please don’t feel like failure, shit happens. Your dress is gorgeous and so are you!!

Post # 4
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@figgnewton:  +1, corset!

That dress is beautiful btw, and you will be too on your big day!

Post # 5
3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ferdie224:  The dress looks great on you! Try not to beat your self up because you haven’t lost as much weight as you wanted. You have lost 30lbs which is a major accomplishment!! Plus the right undergarments can make a world of difference! Hang in there!

I didn’t loose as much weight as I wanted before the wedding either, but I did loose 20 lbs and have managed to keep it off for 2 years now (which is good for me given my history). While my body didn’t look the way I wanted, I was very happy on the actual wedding day.

Post # 6
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@figgnewton:  Eep. Like a medieval torture device? ๐Ÿ˜› Or like spanx?

OP, it sounds like you are on track. You are maintaining your weight, not gaining any. It would be easy for you to lose a few pounds before September if that is something you want to do. I have started doing Jillian Michael’s videos and they really work. They are short, easy to fit in to your schedule, and best of all effective.

Everyone can tell you that you look perfect but what matters is how you feel. You still have 3 months and that is enough time to show some results (30 Day Shred gave me results within the promised 30 days). There is so much pressure on women, especially brides, to look perfect that it’s sickening. Just be healthy and happy ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ferdie224:  You shouldn’t feel bad! You seriously look amazing! That dress is beautiful on you. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
8 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think the dress looks amazing on you! You are NOT a failure (I think the fact that you have graduated medical school speaks volumes about that, ha ha!) 

That being said, I know full well that felling of “good intentions” getting away from you.  I’m totally in the same boat as you.  I’m getting married on Aug. 17, and I waited until last month (May) to start any sort of diet.  Like you, I found that life got in the way (working full time and then some as an attorney, etc.)  It happens. 

Last month my personal trainer put me on a diet – – it is basically low carb (not NO carb), high protein, and restricted calories.  I have to keep under 100 grams of carbs per day, I have to eat at least 100 grams of protein per day, and I have to stick to the calorie limit set for me on My Fitness Pal, which is about 1400 per day.  I plug everything into My Fitness Pal and it tracks all the carbs and protein as well as calories. 

Of course, you’re a doctor so you know that the whole “high protein thing” isn’t for everyone, medically speaking.  But so far, I’ve found it livable and its working.  I have not increased my workouts, but I’ve dropped 10 lbs in 1 month (though to be fair, I think I weigh a LOT more than you, based upon your picture above).  Granted, 10 lbs won’t make me a slim bride, but it does help a bit with feeling more confident in my own skin.  Maybe talk to your personal trainer or a nutritionist to see what he or she recommends?       

Post # 9
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@figgnewton:  +1


You look gorgeous by the way!

Post # 10
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You will be fine!  The dress looks great on you!  I also looks like, in these pictures atleast, that the waist area is not too tight.  It looks like that part of the dress is flowy.  Also, maybe this could be a good motivator to get back on board if it is something you still want!

Post # 11
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Spanx spanx spanx spanx. Get the super hold high waist panties. Those things can take a few inches off and smooth everything out.

Post # 12
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You look fantastic. That dress is beautiful on you. A corset will fix all your problems ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You look beautiful!  I do not see any spillage.  And you do not look like a size 18 or 20!  Seriously.  Don’t beat yourself up over this- as a PP said, shit happens.  And, you still have a little time before the big day- it would be completely doable to drop 5-10 lbs, without even doing any super sketchy crash diet.  But if you don’t, that’s totally OK too!  Because you are going to be fabulous on your big day, no matter what!

Post # 15
2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Don’t stress about losing more weight, just put in a corst back. If you lose more weight they can take it in, if not then you’ll be able to wear it no matter what. You look beautiful!

Post # 16
4656 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ferdie224:  As a corset wearer… do not buy a fashion or steel boned corset (like they sell on corset story) for your wedding day to wear under your dress. A fashion corset will not help you reduce (and if the bones are cheap plastic, it will make you look lumpy) and a steel boned corset will be very uncomfortable, (and they are very thick, so you really have to get down to like 3″ reduction before you even notice a difference, which is awfully squeezy) especially if you’ve never worn them before. Spanx, on the other hand, is an ideal solution.

I’m using a steel boned corset as part of my outfit for my wedding but it’s the top layer and it’s ONLY for some photos and the ceremony, because even with some experience at it, I still don’t feel comfortable eating, drinking, sitting, or dancing in them. Basically just standing and walking for a few hours.

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