(Closed) Feeling like a boring bride…am I?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Am I too boring and traditional?
    Yes : (13 votes)
    21 %
    No : (50 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7735 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @SparkleSun:  Your cow-worker co-worker is either a nasty b!tch, or an idiot who doesn’t know when to keep her mouth shut. Either way, criticising someone else’s wedding is never cool. Ignore her.

    Good vendors and photographers will cater to what you want, not what they think you should want. (Though in the case of the reception manager, it’s probably that they’ll make more money if there are alcholic drinks and it’s his/her way of pressuring you).

    Post # 4
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    1066 posts
    Bumble bee

    @SparkleSun:  I want my wedding to be fun, and believe me with my Fiance it will be a barrel of laughs.BUT I am traditional and I am wearing white, have mainly white flowers and to me that is not boring. It is classy and beautiful. I won’t be jumping up and down, Fiance might, and that is ok, but not for me. I don’t think alcohol is a necessary factor at all. Dont let anyone make you feel like your wedding is boring or dull. They can say what they want. It does’nt make it true.

    Post # 5
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    1011 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @SparkleSun:  There is NOTHING wrong with being traditional! You and your Fiance can do the wedding any way you want, and if you prefer the traditional way, more power to you. Nobody has a right to make you change that if you don’t want it changed. *Hugs*

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Welcome to wedding planning – people are always giving you unsolicited opinions. Just brush them off, you deserve to have the wedding you want! 

    Post # 7
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    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I have a really hard time believing anyone will attend your wedding and think “WOW! She is carrying while flowers! How boring!” because a) how is that boring? and b) even if they thought it was boring they will be paying more attention to the smiles on the faces of you and your Fiance than on flowers.

    Also, people don’t need alcohol to have fun so I don’t think people will have a bad time simply because it’s not there. As for the photographer, like paula1248 said, they will do what you want to do. Often photographers have those photos in their porfolios because that’s what lots of people want to do. But it doesn’t mean you have to do it. We didn’t do the jump thing either. It’s just sort of hard when you are all wearing long dresses and tuxs.

    Post # 8
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    1124 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    You can have a fun and traditional wedding, so long as the guests aren’t uptight. Seems like your guests will be on the same page as the two of you so don’t worry. Everything will work out.

    We are not having alcohol at our reception either (we are getting married and having the reception at the church) and if our guests want alcohol bad enough they can leave early to get some. I’d rather them leave and get some than get trashed at my reception (which if they are that desperate for a drink they likely would get completely hammered if there was an open bar)

     

    Traditional is sweet, it is wholesom and it’s sad the rep it’s gotten lately. Some days I wish I were back in the 1950s, then I remember just how women were treated and am back to “yeah, I’ll stick to 2013” but I wish a lot of the values and traditions were still stuck in our time

    Post # 9
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    12248 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’ve been to an AMAZINGLY fun booze-free wedding! We did all sorts of fun wedding dances (group dances), and songs from the 70s and 80s. Everyone had a great time, and everyone kept very modest.

    I’m a HUGE fan of a traditional wedding! Yours is going to be AMAZING, no matter what your miserable co-worker thinks. If it represents you as a couple, it can’t be bad!

    Post # 10
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    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    My dress had half-length sleeves. Does that make me boring? Besides, your wedding is in November so long sleeves makes sense for the weather. White bouquets are gorgeous. I don’t understand how this is tacky and boring…

     

     

    As for the alcohol-free reception, I’m sure your guests will still have a blast. Most of them have to drive to and from the wedding anyway,

    Post # 11
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    4893 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    If you’re boring, then so am I.  Big, wild, raging parties aren’t our speed either. 

    Post # 12
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I’m sorry but what is a traditional photographer?

    Do what you want, most people not in wedding world don’t do these over the top diy or colorful weddings so I don’t think anyone going to be aghast at your wedding, and most people know if the reception hosted at a church then more then likely there won’t be alcohol or perhaps very light refreshment served. Also most vendors I worked with didn’t make assumptions instead they tend to start with what’s your vision for your day and work from there. I think it’s unprofessional people would have comments or thoughts on what your wedding would be based on your age.

     

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    8579 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Um, I’m not traditional by any means, but I think ANY wedding can be beautiful if done correctly. White flowers are beautiful, and so are black, lime green, or rainbow!

    All that really matters is that you love whatever it is you are planning for your wedding day. Nobody is going to be thinking, “oh those flowers are hideous!”, or “wtf, everything is white!”. And if they are, then they seriously have some major problems to work out with themselves.

    As PP stated : EVERYONE will begin giving you unwanted advice, or putting thoughts in your head.

    Don’t let them get you down!

    Post # 14
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    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    1. Your co-worker has no filter.

    2. I get you on the photos. My husband’s cousin is a photographer and she does amazing photos without all those “cutesy” things you mention. That was something that was very important to me.

    3. You are NOT a boring bride. This is your wedding. It is about marrying the love of your life. Ignore what others say.

    Post # 15
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    4606 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    There’s nothing wrong with being tradition. We aren’t going completely traditional, but our venue also restricts alcohol and we’re not really having any dancing. It’s a small reception space, so there really isn’t any room for that. I feel like people will be bored by our wedding too, but honestly, no one is going to sit at your wedding and say “Oh my, why on earth is she carrying hideious white flowers? How traditional! Blegh.” 

    Post # 16
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    407 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m not super traditional, BUT, I did go to a pretty extreamly traditional wedding a few months ago.  It was my FI’s cousin and so we went because it was important to his parents.  I have to say that I thought it was an amazing wedding.  Its okay to want something different from what everyone seems to want.  If it reflects the two of you, and everyone there knows you both, then it will probably be perfect.  At least, perfect for you.  That doesn’t make you boring. 

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