(Closed) Feeling like a burden to parents during wedding planning..

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hey, it’s alright, at the Bee ppl just need to vent sometimes.  Smile

 

This is the unfortunate thing about allowing or depending on family for money during the wedding; you put yourselves at their mercy.  And I’d be bugged about how the Quince didn’t seem like a problem but your wedding does.  I’ve had friends and relatives spend as much on quinces as they would have on a wedding, and quite frankly, a wedding’s a bigger deal.  Chances are, too, that her behavior’s not a huge surprise.  A lot of the stuff you’re saying about your mom…could be my mom.  It makes it really tough as well because your stepfather and family sound genuinely excited about your wedding.  Sounds like you wouldn’t even try for the big wedding if it wasn’t for their insistence.  Here on the Bee, the general idea is “do what makes you happy, it’s your day”.  It’s not that simple, though; family’s important to consider, and in Latino culture, there’s a lot of emphasis placed on family.  That makes your situation really tough.

 

You’re in a situation where you only have 2 choices: decline their financial support or take it and suck it up.  Which is why I’d elope before taking any money from my mom, because as much as i love her, my dignity matters more.  Tongue out  But, every person and every situation is different, and the same answer is not true for everyone.  Good luck!

 

Btw, love your sn.  

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