(Closed) Feeling like a COW 2 weeks before my wedding…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m sorry you are feeling this way but try not to!!  You are the one that will steal the show on your wedding day and will truly look beautiful and amazing standing next to your groom! 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

One thing I have learned is that everybody has something bad to say about their own body. Even the models do.And it’s something i have to constantly remind myself of in this society of body comparisons.

Now, as someone who is practically your size (okay my boobs are now a 34E, but everything else rings true), I can understand your grief. Finding clothes is tough sometimes. But it’s doable–there are specialty bra stores out there. I went to a place called Ann’s Bra Store (they DO sell online) and bought a longline bra in my size. I can sometimes feel like gigantasaur next to some of my friends, who barely come up to my chin. Especially if i’m wearing heels =].  I don’t go to the stores my friends go to–they’re not good for my self esteem because not a darn thing fits properly. Stick to what you know and what is made for your body. If you need a specialty store, find one. Go to it. Love it.

A size 10 is still quite petite, considering how long your frame is. I’m sure there are days your sister wishes she was as tall as you.  Days she wishes she had the same color eyes as you. We all do this. Try to focus on the good and be thankful for what you have. Rock the curviness and find things that accentuate it.

Everybody has days like this. Stuff like this used to really really bother me when i was in high school and college. As time goes on, it really becomes more and more moot to me. I hope you come to the same mindset. I just focus on ME, not them. I always tell myself “is their dress a size 2? yes. Is mine a 12? yes. Am i 8 INCHES TALLER?”. Yes. Then i feel kinda silly. Take in all those other factors besides “petite”. Basically, you cannot deny that you are taller and bigger than your sister. You are nearly 6 feet tall, it’s inevitable. Focus on how good YOU look, not how good she looks, and don’t compare yourselves. You BOTH look good. Now repeat!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Girl, you sound like a darn SUPERMODEL to me, lol!!!  I know plenty of men who prefer your body type to your sister’s.  I understand self-esteem issues and how you are your own worst critic, but your man picked you for some really great reasons.  You’re going to be his wifey, and I bet he’s in love with your rockin’ body!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You are going to look so beautiful and stunning on your wedding day, from your description you do sound like a model! Walk with your head held high, because believe me,a lot of shorter girls are quite envious and intimidated by a tall woman. You have presence and a certain air about you that makes us shorter ladies a wee bit green!

Plus you should be proud of yourself for living through so much, thats truly inspiring. You’ve accomplished a lot and survived things that break so many people. I bet you have a soulful presence that speaks volumes without uttering a word.

Maybe if you can take some time away from everyone and treat yourself to something that you love to do and makes you happy. Maybe go to the spa or even just a really nice long walk or jog to clear your head and refocus on what makes you such an amazing person that is getting married to another amazing person!

Post # 7
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

BREATHE.

Post # 8
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1440 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@MissHay: I don’t have the same height as you, but I am also “blessed” in the breast department (sometimes it is a curse) … but if you go to a specialty bra store they should have corsettes etc in your bra size. I am a 36G and I was able to find one.

Post # 9
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18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry you feel bad about how you look.  Just remember that everyone looks different and you can be a beautiful woman at different sizes.  It sounds like when you were a size 4 you weren’t healthy at all, so why be sad and want to go back to that when you can’t do it in a healthy way?

Post # 10
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I completely understand your situation, I am have the same height and breast size as you, but I am a size 14..  There are many things I don’t like about my figure..  Like how hard it is to find tall pants..  How hard it is to find F bras!  Finding swim suits that are flattering..  But my boyfriend loves me the way I am and enjoys the large breasts so he doesn’t complain..   I have many self conscious moments and days but sometimes I feel good if a piece of clothing looks nice on me.  You learn to find what styles and cuts are flattering on you. 

But I would be happy if I was a size 10!  You must look amazing..  Have you tried wearing a minimizing bra if you are trying to “slim down” and maybe not draw attention to your breasts?  And have your sister wear stellitos haha 🙂   Also, I use Spanx to help slim me down and they are comfy.

My best friend was in the same situation too in a wedding party..  She is the same height and build as me..  (Not as big of breasts though).  Yet she was with bridesmaids that were like size 6/8 who were like around 5’4″.  She definitely felt like a giant and really awkward..  Like when she stood next to them she felt like a giant.. and when they were trying on dresses the sample dresses fit them fine but she had a bit more of a struggle..  But you take it with a grain of salt and love yourself for what you have..

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