(Closed) Feeling like a deadbeat bride

posted 7 years ago in Music
  • poll: Pick the lesser of these evils?
    iPod DJ- suck it up and put in the effort, slacker : (17 votes)
    38 %
    real DJ- although (s)he may suck because you can't afford a big shot pro : (14 votes)
    31 %
    Pandora- what's the worst that can happen? Besides dead air and inapproriate music.... >_> : (5 votes)
    11 %
    why isn't your groom dealing with all of this so you can take a bubble bath!?! : (9 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    99 posts
    Worker bee

    Our venue told us that some brides opt to use a radio station that plays slow music.  I don’t think it would be the best solution, but if you really don’t care about music (and you aren’t having dancing), go for it.

    Post # 5
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    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We were originally going to do the iPod thing, but realized when we were about to start it just how much work would have to go into it.  Thinking about the different parts of the reception, guessing how long each would last, choosing appropriate songs for each portion, timing it all right, cross-fading so it’d all sound legit, etc.  It was enough to make our heads spin.  My mom pushed us to skip the idea and get a DJ, and so far I’ve been very pleased with that choice.  For us it was totally worth it to throw some money at the problem.

    Are you sure that the only DJ you can afford will suck?  You should do some research, check sites that allow real brides to review (like project wedding), and make some inquiries.  If you’re really on a tight budget, you could try craigslist to find someone just starting out.  You might be surprised at what you can find and afford!

    Post # 7
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    330 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If it would mean less stress go for the DJ, but we almost had a Pandora wedding before we opted to be more controlling and do the iPod thing. If you pay the $38 and upgrade it wouldn’t be that bad if you are open to a lot of different types of music, and you can put the stations on mix, even with just one station, so it does a better job shuffling

    Post # 8
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    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Music is one of those things that guests say makes or breaks the reception. If it’s bad, people will remember and if it’s good, people will remember. Go with whatever you feel works best for you. A dj is generally a professional who is trained to read the crowd and what they respond to, and has a ton of music they can quickly refer to that most do not have access to. You have to shop around and interview djs to see who meshes with you best and is willing to do what you need/want while staying within your budget. Yes there are bad djs out there but the entire industry should not be judged by a few bad apples who don’t do their job correctly. Ipod djs don’t always work the way people think they should and not all ipod receptions go over well. Even though you can choose the music that is played, your guests may or may not respond well to what is chosen, and if they don’t, then you are stuck at that point.

    Post # 9
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    762 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m doing the ipod thing. FH and I just are really particular about music and we aren’t having a cake cutting, garter toss, first dances etc. so we figured it would be fine. I’m kinda freaking out as we have about 2 hours of music with 1.5 hrs to go.  my sister is gonna switch the dinner music to dance music and I still need a little help with editing songs so they are not too long or fade out.

    If you really don’t care about the music maybe a friend could download some songs for you. I can see how it would be hard w/o a home computer.

    Post # 10
    Member
    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I voted– make the groom deal with it. But maybe just because that’s what I’m doing 🙂 Two things that annoyed me that I didn’t want to deal with– music and room blocks. = FI’s job! haha <3 him.

    Post # 11
    Member
    567 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

    Honestly, unless your music ends up graphic, Pandora seems totally acceptable to me. As a bride and a frequent wedding guest myself, I hardly ever notice the music unless it’s dancing time. I can’t even tell you what most first dance/father-daughter songs are!

    Post # 13
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    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would probably just do Pandora, although, for my money I would put a little extra effort into the preceremony music and ipod that.  To me things in and around the ceremony are more important and 30 minutes precermony is only 5 or 6 songs to find.

    Post # 15
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    2344 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    When it came down to things like this towards the end, I either 1) threw money at the problem or 2) made my future husband deal with it. This particular issue for us, I made DH take care of it! But he had access to a laptop and iTunes so it was easier. And it was still a headache for both of us down to the day before the wedding. So I am thinking you might want to throw money at it. We slaved over our dancing music – I think Pandora would not be a good idea if you really want people to dance. A DJ will know how to pace things.

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