- 5 years ago
I’m sitting here absolutely broken hearted because the time has come that I have to make some really tough decisions regarding my cat, Ari. I have two gingers, Ari (m), almost 5yrs and Selena (f), 2.5yrs. Both are neutered and both have been indoors cats their whole lives, with supervised outdoor time in the backyard at my uncles, where I live atm.
When I first got Ari I was living with my ex, who was not a cat person, in an apartment on the third floor. He was about 8 weeks old when I got him and at around 8 mths old he had an accident, where he fell from one of our windows on the third floor to the ground of our apartment complex. We rushed him to a 24hr vet clinic because we was limping and the vet said she had never seen a cat fight being sedated as much as he did. This is the only really traumatic thing I know of in Ari’s life and from then on he’s never been the same. He’s sketchy around people, mainly males I guess and even though I try to socialise him as much as possible. I was impressed when I got Selena for him and he liked her and thought things could get better, but I sometimes catch him being overly aggressive with her for no reason, hissing at her when all she does is jump on the bed etc. He’s attacked me on more than one occasion, once while he and I were curled up sleeping. I woke up to being slapped on the face and feeling blood dripping down my face with him in front of me hissing at me and going to swipe me again. He missed my eye by an inch. When he sees the opportunity to run out the front or back door he does And if you try to stop him he literally turns into a feral cat. Yesterday he got out the back yard, climbed the tree and jumped into our neighbours yard. My SO, dad, uncle and I spent a good half an hour trying to coax him back into our yard or the house. He was feral. If I didn’t know him, I would have thought he was a feral cat who had never had contacted with a human before. He swiped my hand a few times and its now tender and sore, thankfully the swelling has gone down, but its bruised and putting any sort of pressure on it kills. We eventually got him inside and my dad, once again, voiced his concerns about Ari and his behaviour and said he thinks its time I got rid of the cat.
This is just some of Ari’s behaviour, sadly. I’ve taken Ari to many vets, one of which was recommended to me by Lady who breeds Maine Coons. This vet suggested clomicalm (cat Prozac), which I tried and Ari was worse and less trusting than ever, His pupils were always dilated and after three and a bits weeks I took him off it. The vets other suggestion were declawing and decanining him, which I think is cruel or putting him down. I currently have him on some holistic drops, that seem to help calm him with strangers etc, but when he gets outside and doesn’t want to be told what to do, I get feral Ari and attacked.
I’m so heartbroken because I can’t keep going through this with him and am scared Selena is going to see this behaviour and start doing the same things. I think I realistically have very few options. One would be to allow him to be an outside cat and risk him getting in fights, hit by a car, attacked by a dog etc. I could try to rehome him, but I don’t think aggressive cats get rehomed easily. SO I suggesting we cat proof the backyard at his, as I’ll be moving in soon, and let Ari have free range put there, but we have dogs, a lab and a husky. Two very energetic and persistent dogs! Plus our husky is still a puppy, only 4mths old and Ari is a big Tom cat at 7.5kgs. Or to surrender him and have him put down, which has me in tears right now because I absolutely adore him. We head bump and cuddle every night. He has his little spot next to me on the bed where he purrs his head off and kneads my chest or side and to think of having him put to sleep just kills me, but I just don’t know what else to do anymore. I feel like I’ve failed as a cat mama because he should be a happy, spoilt kitty all the time. I’m so sad.