Post # 1
I’m not getting dress regret, but I have RING regret which is absurd because I picked it out!
I got a 9k white gold beautiful ring and had it set with a 1.5 equivalent enhanced moissy and it’s beautiful and all, but I’ve still got something inside me that wants it to be a diamond. I feel rediculous that i spent 800 on a stone that isn’t a diamond now. I’m not bashing moissy or anything- these are just personal thoughts and feelings. I’m also frustrated because 800 is almost enough money to buy an entire new ring!
Fiance and I have talked about that my ring is innnapropriate to wear to work (social worker) since it could easily be mistaken for real and waving my “wealth” around to those in need isn’t something that I want to do.
So I guess my question is- should I get another smaller cz to wear or should I spend more money to get a small diamond ring? The thing is that I’m worried if I want a real diamond that I’ll need to sell my original to get the money. Should I just try to sell the moissy and have a CZ reset into my current ring and get another ring as well?
(FI is fine with whatever as long as I don’t get rid of the setting of the original e-ring which isn’t on my radar of options)
or….do I just need to stop being a brat
Post # 3
why not get a diamond wedding band? That way you’ll be able to keep your original ring, wear it when you’re not at work, but still get the diamond. Most traditional engagement rings would be inappropriate for your line of work anyways. Maybe something like these? They’ll still be diamond, sparkly, but not ostentatious.
Post # 4
i don’t think you are being a brat, but if you’re not happy with a moissanite and find yourself wishing it was a diamond, i definitely wouldn’t go with a cz. if it were me, i would sell the ring and save a little bit of money to get exactly what i wanted. if you’re not happy with a moissy, i really don’t think you’ll be happy with a cz.
Post # 5
You won’t be able to sell the moissanite for what you paid for it. Resale loss is not as bad as it would be for a diamond but it’s still not great. You’d probably get 2-300 for it.
I used to volunteer at the state hospital and got a $10 cz ring for work. My ring is a 1.8 cushion moissanite and the stunt double is a .75 ct cushion CZ. I also did not want to flaunt my “wealth” and sometimes weird things happen there–I do not have the money to replace my ring if something happened to it or if someone stole it.
Just remember that your life will not change for better or worse if your stone is a diamond or a moissanite, so it’s not worth the financial upset if you can’t really afford it right now. Perhaps later you could change it out for a diamond but now, since you’ve already purchased it and can’t really resell it for what you paid, it would be a poor financial decision to change something so inconsequential right now. I wouldn’t say that you’re being a brat but I am saying that you need to find something else to do with the mental energy and time devoted to longing for a diamond.
Post # 6
@abirdword: those are nice, but I want a plain band- my mother has never taken hers off (except when pregnant my dad bought her a new larger size one) and I want to follow that tradition
@blondemotives: well yes- I guess the other thing I forgot to mention is that a dainty CZ ring will still be temporary until I can get a small diamond.
Post # 7
@zomgwut: all good points! Thank you for your input, I should look at resale values to see really what I could get
Post # 8
If you are that unhappy with the moissanite and it’s within the window of time you can return it, you probably should do that. If not, you could sell it and save the money for a diamond.
Post # 9
I’m assuming it’s too late for you to return the stone?
I don’t think you’re being a brat, I think you should look into your options for selling/returning & get what you want (since your Fiance is on board).
Post # 11
keep your mossy ering, and get yourself a thin diamond band to wear for everyday at work. i’ve seen them on ebay for less that $300. Then get your plain wedding band for your wedding day.
you can interchange all three rings according to your mood….and that gives you a chance to save for the diamond ring you now want.
When you do get your diamond ering you can then wear the mossy as a RHR….don’t sell it keep it for sentimental reasons!!!
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Post # 13
I just had a realization! I don’t care that it’s not a diamond, I just want it to be smaller so it’s more realistic. It’s funny because I don’t try to pass my ring off as a diamond, but I guess I’d rather people look at it and not know it’s “fake” just because of the size.
Thanks bees! You ended up saving me a lot of money and heart ache!
Post # 14
It really depends on what is important to you, size or stone. If size is important, then I would stick with the Moissy until you can afford an equivelent diamond and then switch it out…maybe make the moissy into a pendant or a RHR? If having a diamond is more important than size, and you know you’ll be downsizing your ring, then I would get a diamond. It sounds like you love your ring, but not what the stone is. There’s nothing wrong with that, some people just want diamonds. Either way, I think your best best is to keep your current ring until you can afford the stone you want, and wear a plain band to work in the meantime. You can even get a cheaper diamond ring now, and use it as a RHR after the wedding.
Post # 15
@mcklough: I understand what you are saying and you are not being a brat. This is exactly what I was afraid would happen to me if I were to choose a moissanite. It sounds like a diamond band won’t do the trick since it seems like you prefer a diamond engagement ring and since it seems like you’ve run out of time to return the moissanite I would sell it, get as much as you can back and buy a new ring. For now, since you want to keep the tradition with the plain band, maybe you can wear that to work instead of the e-ring .
Post # 16
Definitely don’t get a CZ. If you are regretting not getting a diamond, then getting a CZ is just asking for more regret and throwing more money down the drain.
I would personally think about just getting a diamond wedding band, or anniversary band to wear to work. Or if you have the money, and you current setting with allow for a small diamond to be placed in the center then do that but make sure the setting can hold a small diamond before deciding what to do.