(Closed) Feeling Like Giving Up

posted 4 years ago in TTC
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

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joyfulwifelife:  Sorry you are dealing with this. Since you have been trying for 3 years with no success, I think it’s time to see a specialist.

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Sugar bee

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joyfulwifelife:  If you are having this much trouble TTC naturally at age 22, I think a visit to a fertility specialist is in order. Honestly, it does sound like something is not right, but don’t give up before exploring all your options and seeing if professional help does the trick.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I agree with the other bees, it’s great that you have remained optimistic for the last 3 years but given your age and the fact it hasn’t happened naturally yet i think you may need to see a specialist. This doesnt always mean you will need invasive treatment to become pregnant, but you need to help yourself by finding out what issues you may be facing. Good luck! 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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joyfulwifelife:  I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. We just passed our 2-year TTC mark, so I get how you feel… we are seeing a fertility specialist (and have been for awhile), but my ability to hope drops a little more with each failed cycle. It’s frustrating and depressing – and, in my case, it’s unexplained, which makes me feel broken – like my body doesn’t know how to do what it should do naturally. 

I have to agree with PPs, though. 45 days is awfully long for a cycle, which could indicate something is up that a fertility specialist (or even an OB-GYN) could help with.

 

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

My OB first suspected PCOS when I was around your age,  but since I wasn’t TTC,  I didn’t follow up with testing and just went back on birth control.  Reproductive issues can occur in anyone regardless of age. If you’ve been trying for three years with no success,  I strongly encourage you to see a reproductive endocrinologist.  He or she would be able to determine if there are any underlying issues preventing pregnancy.  Although this is obviously not the case for everyone,  I  was able to get pregnant two months after receiving my diagnosis. If I hadn’t taken the necessary steps,  my husband and I would probably still be trying for a baby with no success. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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joyfulwifelife:  Hi bee!

I feel like you & i can connect a lot! Ive been feeling the same way lately. 

Im about your age, a little younger (21) & we have been trying since july so not nearly as long as you, & my cycles are 40 days long (which is seriously horrible waiting, isnt it?) my periods are also like 2-3 days long & super light.

Im supposed to be in my fertile week right now but im gettting nothing on my OPK! SO frustrating.

Do you temp or use OPK’s? That may help but I really, really encourage you to see a doctor. You might have endometriosis (like i do ) or PCOS. they can really, really help you! We are going to one in May! good luck!

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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joyfulwifelife:  I can definitely connect with your frustration!  If you discover you aren’t pg in a cycle, you just want to move on to the next, but it’s impossible to do that when you have no idea how long your cycles will be!  I suspected PCOS on my own, ran thru the tests, and was actually told that I don’t have it, despite irregular cycles.  I’ve started provera to jumpstart AF, then letrozole to push ovulation.  My ob tested me to make sure I was ovulating, and luckily, I did!  Just knowing that has put me at so much ease, and even if this doesn’t work, at least I’m working with a regular length cycle now.  Still not sure if this month worked, but if not, I can continue for 2 more cycles before heading to a specialist, however based on other things, OB thinks this is more of a timing issue for us – and since your cycles are irregular, it might be the same for you.   Agree with PP that it’s time to see a new doc, likely a specialist. 

I think the biggest help for me so far is that I have a newer doc who really communicates with me.  We have a great relationship and she really works hard to find different ways to help us get pregnant.  Not sure what your current situation is with your OB, but it might be worth it to either make a change to another office, or really amp up your communication so you can get the answers and support that you need asap! FX!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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joyfulwifelife:  totally get your fear, but isn’t the guessing and not knowing just as scary?  Remember that once you run through the tests, you have more concrete information to work with, and then you are more likely to get quicker reqsults.  Taking that first step is totally scary, but I think you will be happier and definitely feel a lot more relieved once you really dive in and have the right facts to work with.  GL!

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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LadyBear: I can sympathise also. I’ve been trying, though not strictly every month, three years this Summer. My cycles are around the 35 days mark, but it’s not unusual for them to sometimes be 50 days in length. I too feel down abut it today, I don’t know why, but it’s like a switch. I’ve tried to book a doctors appointment today, which was unnecessarily difficult and I still didn’t get an appointment. Aargh, adding to my frustration. I’d definitely get an appointment booked, it’s a positive step at least. Good luck! 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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CatyLady:  How frustrating! Good luck getting the appointment soon. The one good thing in this whole ordeal has been my awesome RE, nurse, and staff, so getting the right doc is so important.

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