- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015 - Casa Feliz
Ummm woah woah woah. I feel like everyone is so quick to tell OP to leave their significant other just based on the one situation at hand. OP, what kind of relationship do you and your partner have otherwise? If you feel like this issue has completely taken over your relationship in a negative way, then I would give him an ultimatum before just leaving. <br /><br />What I would do in your situation? Start making the friends work for their excessive time there until they become uncomfortable and stop wanting to come over as often. For example, I’d start (very innocently) asking for favors around the house: “Hey John, can you please wash your dishes? While you’re at it, can you just wash all of them? Thank you, you’re so sweet!” or “Hi Dave! My partner won’t mow the grass and I’m just so busy that I haven’t had a chance to but can you do it? The mower is in the garage. Thanks!” and another example: “Hey guys, I’ve noticed there are some crumbs on the carpet. Can you vacuum it? Also, new rule – no eating in the living room.” They obviously won’t refuse. And if your partner catches on to it, just tell him: “Hey, since you won’t do it, they can, I mean after all I’m pretty much married to them too anyway because they practically live here!” Then flash a smile, and go.