(Closed) Feeling like I should leave- Parner has friends over daily and I feel unwelcome

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Casa Feliz

Ummm woah woah woah. I feel like everyone is so quick to tell OP to leave their significant other just based on the one situation at hand. OP, what kind of relationship do you and your partner have otherwise? If you feel like this issue has completely taken over your relationship in a negative way, then I would give him an ultimatum before just leaving. <br /><br />What I would do in your situation? Start making the friends work for their excessive time there until they become uncomfortable and stop wanting to come over as often. For example, I’d start (very innocently) asking for favors around the house: “Hey John, can you please wash your dishes? While you’re at it, can you just wash all of them? Thank you, you’re so sweet!” or “Hi Dave! My partner won’t mow the grass and I’m just so busy that I haven’t had a chance to but can you do it? The mower is in the garage. Thanks!” and another example: “Hey guys, I’ve noticed there are some crumbs on the carpet. Can you vacuum it? Also, new rule – no eating in the living room.” They obviously won’t refuse. And if your partner catches on to it, just tell him: “Hey, since you won’t do it, they can, I mean after all I’m pretty much married to them too anyway because they practically live here!” Then flash a smile, and go. 

Post # 32
229 posts
Helper bee

This man doesn’t want to cohabit with his significant other.  He wants to live in a university/college dorm again.

My ex was very much like that.He’d expect me to act like a 1950’s housewife, yet pay for everything. But he also wanted to live like a fresher every week. 

You feel used, pushed aside and out of place. A home shouldn’t make you feel that way.  i have a several ideas.

1. Don’t do the housework. If he’s not willing let the work pile up and it might make him appreciate what you do and pull his socks up. Be warbed though as I did this and my ex was happy to live in filth until one day he started screaming about not having any clean clothes and physically lased out at me. Not saying your SO will do that though. You know him.

2. Leave, ask your self if you both have the same expectations of this relationship and wheres your intimate couple time? 

Hope you sort it soon sweetie xx

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