(Closed) Feeling like i shouldn’t have to deal with this at all…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I dealt with it! To the point I sent out an email to my whole bridal party requesting that all shower planning be cancelled because I couldn’t deal with the drama! Turns out it was only one bridesmaid giving everyone a problem, she is no longer a problem because she is no longer in my wedding! She not only caused problems with this but also tried ruining my relationship with my Fiance and started crap with all our other friends. 

You are right you should not have been told anything that was going on! You should just be able to show up and be happy! I think all weddings have some sort of drama, I’m in another wedding a month before mine and two of her BMs are giving everyone crap but we are not telling the bride! No need to stress her out too! 

Post # 4
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Can I just tell you that I had a freak out to my Darling Husband about this the other night? The difference is that it’s our baby shower rather than our bridal shower. My mom has been notorious for being difficult to work with when it comes to big events like this. It’s her way or the highway, and something almost always happens to p*ss her off enough to get angry at the person she’s throwing the shower for. My bridal shower was a disaster. 

So needless to say, I’m dreading the baby shower. She’s already telling me how it’s going to be this huge issue b/c my SIL wants to try to do something for me. So not only am I hearing it from my mom, but I’m also hearing about it from my SIL. And then my Darling Husband told me that his mom is getting anxious, but feels like she can’t do anything b/c of my mom. I freaked out at him. I told him I didn’t want to hear another word about the shower. I also don’t want to seem ungrateful, but I don’t care where it is, or who throws it, or what we’re having to eat. It doesn’t matter to me. Whatever they have will be fantastic, but they’re turning it into such a stressful event.

So, I don’t have much advice for you…I just wanted to let you know that I can comiserate. Try to hang in there…

Post # 5
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2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hi date twin!! I laughed at first because my shower IS father’s day weekend, so we were almost date twins twice 😛

I’m sorry you are feeling stressed out about this….I feel like something must be going on with yor mom, because it seems kind of random…do you think she offered the house but didn’t actually WANT to have it there?

Post # 6
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am laughing because my WEDDING is Father’s Day weekend annnnnd it looks like my Dad won’t be coming down due to health issues. So…yeah. You can’t please everyone and you don’t need the stress. IGNORE THEM!

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