(Closed) Feeling like I’m going to look awful at my wedding

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

YAY for CT brides!!  Sorry you’re feeling this way!!  You’ll get through it and look and feel amazing for your day.  Maybe you can call the salon and request that someone else do your make-up because you didn’t like the way he did it? I think that’s reasonable at least.  I would at least push for a second make-up trial with a different stylist who has better credentials; it would be really unprofessional for them to just stick you with some Newb who didn’t do a good job and say take it or leave it. 

And maybe touch base with whoever’s doing your hair and discuss your current cut/style and maybe extensions would be needed or help, if that’s an option in your budget.

good luck with everything and try to keep positive, that will help you look and feel better for your big day!

Post # 4
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

 

First… take a deep breath… 

As for your hair, I would suggest contacting the stylist who did your hair trial. Explain you went to have your hair trimmed and the stylist may have gone overboard. Ask about ways to adapt the look you were trying for. They might have some good professional suggestions.

Another option might be to put in extensions. It can be costly, but will give you the hair length you want for the big day. 

 

As for makeup, the man sounds completely unprofessional. I’m not sure if you are stuck with him, if you already booked or what situation you are stuck in – but I would look for someone else. 

Falsies should always have mascara put on over them to blend into your natural lashes unless they are special rhinestone/feather lashes (etc). which is a completely different story. 

See if you can find a different makeup artist, or complain to the place (salon?) that his work was not up to par, and give a list of qualified reasons why without being too emotional – ask for a different makeup artist. If not, take your business elsewhere. 

 

either way.. you will not be ugly. You surely can’t consider yourself ugly without makeup, and you have a few months to sort things out.

Post # 5
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

Yes, honey, take a deep breath. You have time to work around this. Your wedding is several months away, and you will be able to settle in to your haircut and figure out how to work with it by then. You will be able to find someone else to do your makeup (it sounds like you just would not be comfortable working with this guy in the future – so don’t do it. There are other options out there. You will find one.)

Most of all, though, try to take a step back and remind yourself: this is about your marriage, and your Fiance is in love with you, as you are, and as you look right now. It sounds like a big part of why you’re upset is that you feel you aren’t going to attain an ideal image you’ve created for yourself re. weight, hair, etc. That’s okay. You don’t have to. You will be beautiful no matter what. And making yourself miserable for the next three months isn’t worth it – all that buildup for one day that you’ll have a really hard time enjoying if you’re stressed out about your appearace?

Think of it this way: you don’t really want to peak on the first day of your marriage and have the rest of it be downhill, do you? Of course you want to look beautiful – and you will. Don’t pressure yourself so much, though – you need to leave room for your beauty (both inner and outer) to grow, as you grow into the married woman you’re going to become. Instead of worrying about weight, work on exercising and eating right so that you start your married life in good health. And you know your own best looks, so, rest assured, you’ll know when you’ve found a makeup artist who clicks with you – or you may even decide you’re better off doing your own. Hang in there, and think about the day after the wedding. After all, it’s the marriage that really matters. Wink

Post # 6
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474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As a stylist, nothing breaks my heart any more then hearing about styling horror stories. I’m sorry that that happened to you. Buttttt…there is hope. I promise your hair will grow back. Since it has a fresh cut it is going to grow faster.
As for the make up trial, you have the right to fire someone if they don’t do what you expect. I would search for another make up artist in your area.

Good thing you went in for a trial, and I’m sure everything will work out in the end!

Post # 7
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148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m sure that by the time your big day arrives you will look stunning! Look at the bright side, imagine if you didn’t have the trial and this happened on the day…disaster! At least now you have time to find someone new who understands exactly what you want and you feel comfortable with.

Even if you have another trial with this place i don’t think you are going to feel you are in goods hands. There’s enough of the big things to worry about let alone the small details like your make-up. You should be able to sit back and relax and let the artist work their magic!

Remember it’s all about you and your Fiance and im sure you are going to take his breath away 🙂

Post # 8
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2125 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

oh dear, there are many magical ways to pull your hair back without extensions…I’m sure your hair will grow considerably in the next two months as well. 

yes, makeup can be trial and error. Next time you make an appointment tell them you need someone VERY experienced with bridal makeup…tell them you mean no disrespect but you’d have to leave their facility if you are faced with another novice.

 

You are gonna look gorgeous..just a few bumps in the road right now.

Post # 9
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2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Please don’t worry. With regards hair, your hair will grown an inch or so in over 2 months and you can always buy some extensions and trim them. The hair will be ok 🙂

With regards make up, look into using someone else. I changed hair dresser twice because noone but the woman I’m finally hiring did something that looked good. Yes that meant I lost a little money but it means I’m confident of how i’ll look on the day now. If you can, trial someone else for your make up. You shouldn’t be paying that much for a newbie x

 

Post # 10
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m sorry you’re feeling down! I’m sure you’ll feel better in a few days. You still have a few months, in the meantime your hair will grow and you can ask of another make up trial at a different salon. These are things you can usually work out easily, don’t worry so muchWink!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Big hugs! Crappy people are crappy.

There would be no point adding to the wonderful advice from other posters!  But it is all fixable in one way or another.  You’re going to be a beautiful bride 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@candykiss:  I lost £40 twice on trials I was unhappy with but, that’s why they’re called trials! So you can trial someone and say no ultimately! They should refund any additional deposits you’ve paid as it’s still a good few weeks from your wedding so they’re not going to lose out!

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