Post # 1
Hey bees, just need some emotional support today. I went to get my hair cut and highlighted followed by my makeup trial. I was very specific with the hair stylist and told her not to take off more than an inch or twoas I need my hair long for the updo I want. I did ask for layers to give my hair some volume. She did a nice job on the highlights but made my layers waaaaay too drastic and now some of my hair in the front is so short it won’t fit back into a ponytail. I only have a couple of months till my wedding and I’m afraid it won’t be long enough now or it will look lacking. I was in tears yesterday and had apanic attack I was so upset when I found I couldn’t pull it all back. I’m mad with the hair stylist but also mad with myself. How did I not notice how much she was taking off?! I wish I could go and turn back time. I’m really nervous now how my hair will be for the wedding? Is two months long enough for it to grow a few inches?
To make matters worse I had my make up trial this weekend. I went to the place that’s doing my makeup and was greeted by a veeeeery young guy. He was nice but I could tell he was new. In talking with him as he was doing my makeup I found he had just started a couple months ago and went to school for hair and got into makeup by watching videos on Youtube. Umm seriously? I’m not paying $85 a person for someone who learned through YouTube. But I figured I’d give him the benefit of the doubt and let him finish. It is a reputable place and I figured that they had to have hired him for some reason. He did take his time with me and seemed to be patient but his hands kept rubbing my face as he was working which made me feel grimy and i didn’t like the way the false lashes he did looked. He even admitted one eye looked weird and redid it. When he redid it the way he did it was poking so he had to do that eye again (for the thrid time). When I got home and asked Fiance what he thought he noticed one side looked higher than the other. Upon careful evaluation in the mirror I realized one side was peeling off already, less than an hour later and I hadn’t rubbed my eyes or anything. And it wasn’t even the eye that had been redone! I could not get the other side to match so I just took them off and they came off REALLY easy. I called the salon because I was really upset and I talked to the guy who did my makeup and he said its supposed to be that way.
In talking with friends they said falsies shouldn’t come off that easy, he should have applied mascara over them to make them blend with my lashes better, he shouldn’t have had to put lots except blush over the airbrush he did, etc etc.
Im just feeling really anxious and nervous and like I’m going to be an ugly bride. I already didnt lose as much weight as i wanted and feel like my hair/makeup are the things i could control and now those are going to be awful too. Im going to call the salon and see what they say. worst case scenario I lose my deposit, and have to find somewhere else and pay for trials again. just wishing things had gone better. With only a couple months to go I don’t know if I can find someone else that’s any good. Ugh I can’t even think of it without my chest tightening and wanting to Cry. Can really use some emotional support and advice. Sorry it’s so long, thanks bees.
Post # 3
YAY for CT brides!! Sorry you’re feeling this way!! You’ll get through it and look and feel amazing for your day. Maybe you can call the salon and request that someone else do your make-up because you didn’t like the way he did it? I think that’s reasonable at least. I would at least push for a second make-up trial with a different stylist who has better credentials; it would be really unprofessional for them to just stick you with some Newb who didn’t do a good job and say take it or leave it.
And maybe touch base with whoever’s doing your hair and discuss your current cut/style and maybe extensions would be needed or help, if that’s an option in your budget.
good luck with everything and try to keep positive, that will help you look and feel better for your big day!
Post # 4
First… take a deep breath…
As for your hair, I would suggest contacting the stylist who did your hair trial. Explain you went to have your hair trimmed and the stylist may have gone overboard. Ask about ways to adapt the look you were trying for. They might have some good professional suggestions.
Another option might be to put in extensions. It can be costly, but will give you the hair length you want for the big day.
As for makeup, the man sounds completely unprofessional. I’m not sure if you are stuck with him, if you already booked or what situation you are stuck in – but I would look for someone else.
Falsies should always have mascara put on over them to blend into your natural lashes unless they are special rhinestone/feather lashes (etc). which is a completely different story.
See if you can find a different makeup artist, or complain to the place (salon?) that his work was not up to par, and give a list of qualified reasons why without being too emotional – ask for a different makeup artist. If not, take your business elsewhere.
either way.. you will not be ugly. You surely can’t consider yourself ugly without makeup, and you have a few months to sort things out.
Post # 5
Yes, honey, take a deep breath. You have time to work around this. Your wedding is several months away, and you will be able to settle in to your haircut and figure out how to work with it by then. You will be able to find someone else to do your makeup (it sounds like you just would not be comfortable working with this guy in the future – so don’t do it. There are other options out there. You will find one.)
Most of all, though, try to take a step back and remind yourself: this is about your marriage, and your Fiance is in love with you, as you are, and as you look right now. It sounds like a big part of why you’re upset is that you feel you aren’t going to attain an ideal image you’ve created for yourself re. weight, hair, etc. That’s okay. You don’t have to. You will be beautiful no matter what. And making yourself miserable for the next three months isn’t worth it – all that buildup for one day that you’ll have a really hard time enjoying if you’re stressed out about your appearace?
Think of it this way: you don’t really want to peak on the first day of your marriage and have the rest of it be downhill, do you? Of course you want to look beautiful – and you will. Don’t pressure yourself so much, though – you need to leave room for your beauty (both inner and outer) to grow, as you grow into the married woman you’re going to become. Instead of worrying about weight, work on exercising and eating right so that you start your married life in good health. And you know your own best looks, so, rest assured, you’ll know when you’ve found a makeup artist who clicks with you – or you may even decide you’re better off doing your own. Hang in there, and think about the day after the wedding. After all, it’s the marriage that really matters.
Post # 6
As a stylist, nothing breaks my heart any more then hearing about styling horror stories. I’m sorry that that happened to you. Buttttt…there is hope. I promise your hair will grow back. Since it has a fresh cut it is going to grow faster.
As for the make up trial, you have the right to fire someone if they don’t do what you expect. I would search for another make up artist in your area.
Good thing you went in for a trial, and I’m sure everything will work out in the end!
Post # 7
I’m sure that by the time your big day arrives you will look stunning! Look at the bright side, imagine if you didn’t have the trial and this happened on the day…disaster! At least now you have time to find someone new who understands exactly what you want and you feel comfortable with.
Even if you have another trial with this place i don’t think you are going to feel you are in goods hands. There’s enough of the big things to worry about let alone the small details like your make-up. You should be able to sit back and relax and let the artist work their magic!
Remember it’s all about you and your Fiance and im sure you are going to take his breath away 🙂
Post # 8
oh dear, there are many magical ways to pull your hair back without extensions…I’m sure your hair will grow considerably in the next two months as well.
yes, makeup can be trial and error. Next time you make an appointment tell them you need someone VERY experienced with bridal makeup…tell them you mean no disrespect but you’d have to leave their facility if you are faced with another novice.
You are gonna look gorgeous..just a few bumps in the road right now.
Post # 9
Please don’t worry. With regards hair, your hair will grown an inch or so in over 2 months and you can always buy some extensions and trim them. The hair will be ok 🙂
With regards make up, look into using someone else. I changed hair dresser twice because noone but the woman I’m finally hiring did something that looked good. Yes that meant I lost a little money but it means I’m confident of how i’ll look on the day now. If you can, trial someone else for your make up. You shouldn’t be paying that much for a newbie x
Post # 10
I’m sorry you’re feeling down! I’m sure you’ll feel better in a few days. You still have a few months, in the meantime your hair will grow and you can ask of another make up trial at a different salon. These are things you can usually work out easily, don’t worry so much!
Post # 11
Big hugs! Crappy people are crappy.
There would be no point adding to the wonderful advice from other posters! But it is all fixable in one way or another. You’re going to be a beautiful bride 🙂
Post # 12
Thanks ladies! You’re advice and kind words are so comforting. My Fiance is also very supportive, but I feel like sometimes he just doesn’t get it! You should have seen his face when I was crying about my hair lol. He felt bad but I think also felt I was being a drama queen. I am going to call the salon today and see what they have to say, but agree wtih your posts that no matter who they give me now, I’m just not going to feel like I’m in good hands there. It’s probably going to cost me a a couple hundred bucks now as I’d lose my deposit and doubt they’d refund what I paid for my trail and now I’ll have to pay for a new trial, but in the grand scheme of the wedding a couple hundred bucks isn’t a big deal, just frustrating!
Post # 13
@candykiss: I lost £40 twice on trials I was unhappy with but, that’s why they’re called trials! So you can trial someone and say no ultimately! They should refund any additional deposits you’ve paid as it’s still a good few weeks from your wedding so they’re not going to lose out!