Post # 1
I posted a couple of weeks back about how my SO got fired from his job. It was definitely a blow but we were gonna get through it. His last check allowed us to stay caught up on our bills and we figured he’d get enough unemployment to let us stay afloat while he found something new, and lord knows he’s been trying. He put in over thirty applications in the first 48 hours alone.
We just got the letter that he has been deemed ineligible for unemployment because he was fired; it falls under their “misconduct” clause even though we were told if it was for something minor he’d be eligible. Guess not. So now we have no source of income (I’m in school). We have $400 worth of bills due in less than two weeks- how are we gonna do this? How are we gonna pay? My dad has offered to help is out but I hate asking for his help. I just want to curl in a ball and cry.
Post # 3
can you dispute it with the unemployment agency??
Post # 4
@highschoolhoneys: We can but I doubt it would do much good. I’m going to talk to SO about what he would like to do when he gets home. Right now he’s out of town trying to scrap some metal to help us have gas money for the week.
Post # 5
@ForeverBirds: I think you can appeal that decision.
He needs to take any job right now, even if he is way over qualified. Some money is better than no money. Go and apply for food stamps asap. You need to go to a local DHHS office. The money is on a debit card, so they’re not paper vouchers like they used to be (at least that’s how it was when I was a cashier back when).
You guys will get through this eventually. Accept help since you need it. Just keep track of who you gave you what so you can repay them.
Post # 6
He needs to appeal the findings. There should be instructions on the denial letter. If they find in his favor he should get the money retroactively. Unemployment is a mess right now. Everyone I’ve talked to is having issues with it across several states.
Post # 7
Ugh. So sorry you’re in such a terrible situation!
When I was dirt broke and needed money fast, I sold everything that wasn’t nailed down–Clothing, shoes, books, what little furniture I had!
I also did the “odd jobs” section of Craigslist–Helping people move/garden/whatever.
Post # 8
@earear: He’s definitely open to anything but we’ve had no calls back. I know cause my cell is the only phone we have so all calls come through me.
@tksjewelry: Is there a chance he could get unemployment if he was fired? He was only fired for having two too many absences (sick leave, which we didn’t realize would be counted against him), not something really horrible.
Post # 9
@ForeverBirds: I thought that getting fired generally disqualified someone from getting unemployment (but every state is different, of course). I would still appeal the decision, just because it’s better to try twice than to drop the argument all together. Right now, he needs to find part-time work, and do whatever he can to get some income right now.
I hope everything works out for you!
Post # 10
@BrandNewBride: I’ll talk to him about the odd jobs. Honestly I just got rid of all our old clothes by donating them yesterday. Maybe not such a smart move. And we have no furniture to sell; we live with my parents at the moment, and all our non-essential furniture (like not our bed or dresser) was made by my dad/grandfather or belonged to my grandmother and I couldn’t part with it. If I tried, I think my dad would be furious.
Post # 11
i would appeal. if he was sick and has a doctor’s note, they can’t just fire him for that! i’m so sorry you’re going through this. i would try selling things and ask your dad for a temporary loan, until you can get back on your feet. it sounds like you guys are doing all you can to find work, so i’m sure you’ll hear something back real soon. you’re in my prayers.
Post # 12
In NYC you get unemployement if youre laid off but also have a good chance of getting it if youre fired, youre not really eligible if you quit. I would say to dispute it and then apply for emergency cash assistance/food stamps through the deparment of human services in your state.
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Since you already live with family, it’s probably pretty limited what cuts you can make. As crappy as it seems, taking a loan from familly may not be such a bad idea.
Post # 14
hopefully you can make it through! being unemployed is stressful enough. being behind on your bills is even more stressful!
sorry for this tough time.
Post # 15
I know it takes WAY longer than just sending out the same resume and cover letter to everyone, but I would recommend taking the extra time to customize each cover letter for each job. As someone who hires people, I basically discount 90% of resumes that aren’t customized… meaning I want to see someone write in a cover letter WHY they want to work at this job and what they can do to help the company (i.e., not just changing 2 words in it). Try to focus on how he’ll create a positive impact (how you want to make things run smoother, more effectively, with lower costs or overhead for the company, faster, better, etc etc…) The wording depending on the exact job and what impact he thinks he can have but you get the idea. I see too many cover letters that talk about how someone really wants the experience and how the job will help their career, when what i really want to hear about is how they can help US. If he does this, you’ll notice a difference in the number of call backs he’ll get… People who are looking through stacks of resumes notice this kind of effort! Also, if you have any friends or acquaintances that work in HR get them to look over your SO’s stuff and also practice interviews.
Stay positive, he’ll find another job soon… it’s only a matter of time!
Post # 16
Here’s what I found on Alabama’s website about being eligible:
– Your unemployment must not be your own fault (i.e. not because you quit or were fired for misconduct).
I’m guessing that too many absences would be considered misconduct so I’m not sure that an appeal would do you much good.
Is there any way he can get a doctor’s note? How many days did he miss?
As much as it sucks, I would take a loan from your dad. Make it clear that it’s a loan and you will be paying him back when you can.
In the mean time, is there anything you guys can sell? Are there odd jobs in the area? Can he apply at places that are below his qualification levels? Are you able to work any hours?