(Closed) Feeling like such an ass

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Awww. It could always be worse. Make up for it in some way.. or just bite your tongue the next time you feel annoyed- it might surprise him. I do that too and then I pinch myself and realize with so many of my friends dating jerks how lucky I am. Sounds like you have a keeper:) 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

That’s so sweet.  We all go a little crazy sometimes.  I’d do something to make it up to him!  Nothing big.  Maybe just making his favorite dinner or dessert?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

I don’t think you should feel like an ass at all! You needed to vent. That is (part of) what the Bee is here for! Also You had real, valid feelings that you shared with him! There is NOTHING wrong with that! If anything that fb post looks like an appology from him more than anything. 

Best of luck! You sound like you are building a beautiful, strong family!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

You do have a newborn distracting you 😉 When you get to see him next, give him a big hug and kiss and tell him how much you love him. And maybe mention what a great father he is being and how you couldn’t be doing this without him. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You are not a sucky wife! Sweetie, you just had a baby & you BOTH have to adjust to it all. It may take time & sometimes you may seem like you don’t even have time. That is very understandable. & Now that you know he feels neglected you can work at to make sure he doesn’t! Say sorry, hug & move on. 🙂 HUGS!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aww, don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re a new mom and probably pretty stressed out trying to juggle baby and your sanity. 

Is there any way that you can plan a night alone together at some point? Even if it’s weeks away it could be something for you guys to look forward to.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Awww, well when we feel sad or un apprecaited we say things we dont mean. You got yourself a good guy and a gorgeous baby.  🙂 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You are not a sucky wife.  Having a new baby is an adjustment.  He loves you.  We can all see that in the message he wrote on FB.  I agree with the advice to find time for a nice date and a few hours alone.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@mwitter80:  Don’t feel like an ass. Is this a day you typically celebrate? Not every couple celebrates a first date day, and once they get married, they skip it and celebrate their wedding anniversary. Otherwise, you’d be celebrating every single little milestone. 

“What’s that? Anniversary of our first time in bed together! Must do something special!” 

“Anniversary of when we moved in together! Need a nice gift!” 

Where would it stop? I’m being light hearted to try to cheer you up, but the long and short of my point is to just continue showing him and telling him you love him now as always. If he’s sad about the attention deficit, be sure to let him know that it’s temporary, and you understand, but that new little guy is taking some getting used to for every one. Ask what he wants to be different, and tell him what you’d like to see happen. When small fry is napping, maybe surprise him with a massage or something? I know it’s not easy when you can barely make a meal for yourself, but even if it’s something simple like a foot rub, or even a hug, he’ll notice the effort, I’m sure.  

Hang in there, lady!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You’re not alone…..Ive done the same and felt bad too. . Ive posted about my fiance not being intimate and not giving me enough attention.. When really he is so sweet. Im lucky to have him. 

Men are very forgiving. Give him a big kiss and hug! 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That was so sweet!

 

You are not a sucky wife! New babies take lots of time and energy. That’s just the way it is!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Thats really sweet of him to write!

  You should make him( or go buy it lol) the dessert he was supposed to order the first night you met lol

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