(Closed) Feeling like the worst girlfriend ever (long)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m sorry to hear your night wasn’t what you had hoped. (((hugs)))

Try not to (next year) ring in the year like this. I know it sucks, but it really starts things off on the wrong foot. Maybe tell him next time if he’s serious to call you by your real name and not do it when joking. Preferably with a ring. Since he seems to get it, all you can do is make sure that you two maintain the good vibes.

Happy new year. It should be getting better for you soon!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Tarheelgurl:  i think you need to relax. He is going to have the ring soon and propose.  Even if he waits until the end of January it’s not because he’s dragging his feet – it’s probably to make sure he can surprise you.  It kind of sounds really insecure to say something like that. Waiting and your relationship will be much easier if you just relax, enjoy the process and let it happen when it happens.  No one wants to be fighting over an engagement just weeks before the proposal is supposed to happen.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@sealevels:  +1

@MrsWBS:  +1

@Tarheelgurl:  I’m sorry the night didn’t go the way you wanted. Just take some deep breaths and relax. He’ll propose when he’s good and ready. The last thing you want is for him to feel like he’s obligated or pressured to propose. Maybe you could plan a fun date night together to take your minds off of things?

Post # 6
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1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Tarheelgurl:  I would be upset too!!  Making you wait to the last minute for no good reason is kinda mean. (LOL- at first I typed “kinda men” instead of “kinda mean” which also works).  I think it is good that you stood your ground and clearly communicated what you wanted.  Now he knows not to joke around about it and I’m sure he will get it right the next time around.  And you really are so so so so close!! Tons of waiting bees would be so thankful to know they have less than a month to wait!  So now that you have spoken your peace, start the New Year on a new foot- 2013 looks like it is going to be a particularly amazing year for you!! *BIG HUG*

Post # 7
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Newbee

@Tarheelgurl:  Ugh…I’m so sorry.  Boys can be so dumb, can’t they?  It’s such an important moment in a woman’s life and we just want it to be so perfect and not to be made light of. 

Just take heart that it is coming soon and that 2013 will be your year.  Now that your SO knows how you feel, I’m sure he will do his best to make the proposal so memorable and special for both of you.

NYE was a little bittersweet for me also as at one point before midnight, I the crazies took over and I actually thought my SO was about to propose (even though I logically knew it wouldn’t happen that night).  The disappointment sent me over the edge, and running to the ladies room in tears.

This proposal waiting game can make the most sane girl a little crazy for sure!

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