(Closed) Feeling like your own mother is stealing your "thunder".

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3574 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I dont have much advice here except to say, she only has the power to upset you if you give it to her.  Her actions right now say more than the kind of person she is than you.  Your wedding is coming and this IS your time.  Your mom on the otherhand – this is just another bump on her journey.  I would try to focus on the positives, and isntead of feeling angry at your mom and her man, try to feel sorry for her.   Thats what I would do…  🙁

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

giving hugs really hope your mom doesnt start the wedding planning for her wedding til after yours especially if this man is as shady as he was befor.. some people dont learn from past mistakes until they do the mistake a few times…

Post # 5
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3429 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sunshine_kar:  How can you be sure this engagement of theirs will even last? don’t focus on your mom right now..try to stay focused on your wedding. You are on top of the thunder cloud girl..don’t worry:)

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sunshine_kar:  What If’s rarely happen honey. I think It’s sweet of you to be there for your ma. Don’t worry! Maybe they’ll hold off till after you’re married…fingers crossed for you:)

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sunshine_kar:  If I read your post correctly, your Mom has been married once and engaged any number of times since.  And, she had a very dramatic breakup with a guy who was apparently not terribly honest with her and is now back with him, yes?

Sweetie – No one is going to take your Mom’s latest engagement to a loser very seriously.  Your wedding, they will. 

While its true your mom may put the focus all on her, that type of person ALWAYS finds a way to make it about them.  Don’t sweat it.  Enjoy your wedding.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@sunshine_kar:  You know, sometimes, we just have to accept people for who they are and try not to expect things of them they’re just not willing or capable of doing. 

I don’t mean we have to like it, just that, if we’re going to keep them in our lives we have to see them for who they are and not give them the power to hurt us when they are just being exactly who they’ve always been, you know?

Of course, this is far, far easier said than done.  But try – for your own happiness and peace of mind if nothing else. 

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It doesn’t sound like she’s trying to steal your thunder, especially since her crap boyfriend is the one proposing, not her. I’m sure she’s really happy for you, but it’s unfair for you to be upset at her about this. More than anything, I’d be worried about her rather than angry.

It hasn’t even happened yet, and who knows what she’ll say? Chances are they wouldn’t even go through with it. Focus on your wedding – it’s going to be amazing!

Post # 14
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1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

While it isn’t stealing your thunder per se, I find her taking him back and being on the verge of getting engaged so close to your wedding a bit odd.  Maybe it’s love.  Perhaps it’s attention seeking behavior and a fear of being alone.

The best thing to do is if she gets engaged is to congratulate her and offer to help plan her wedding after your honeymoon is over.  That way you’re supporting her, but making it clear that until your wedding is over, that it’s your top priority. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Just want to send *HUGS*

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