(Closed) Feeling lonely without friends and family…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You can do it and its going to be great! I am also planning alone, my Fiance is preparing himself for boot camp and is working to save up for when he is gone. I don’t have any friends or family here really so I am going at it alone. If you ever need anyone to talk to or anything i’m on here regularly and you can PM me if you want. Good luck I hope you feel better about it all =)

I had my wisdom teeth surgically removed almost 3 months ago and I JUST got the feeling back in a section of my lip!

Post # 4
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sorry to hear that it’s getting you down. Are you having bridesmaids? Or even if not, have you kept in touch with your good friends back home? My maids are spread across the country, so I created a private facebook group so I can share photos of possible dresses, ideas for decor/flowers/etc so that I can get their opinions, etc. Would that help you feel a bit more connected? 

Also, try to set ‘wedding planning times’ and then ‘dead times’ where you just don’t plan. That may help to keep it from being so overwhelming. And if you’d like your fiance’s input, try explaining to him that you really appreciate him being so willing to let you do what you love, but you’d really value his opinion or at least if he’d tell you if he prefers x over y, etc. Feel better with the wisdom teeth, those can be brutal. Things will take an upswing, I promise, just try to focus on the positive. Best of luck, @ijustrockout:.

Post # 7
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ijustrockout: Hey girl you are not alone! Actually i used to live in Charleston and miss it soooooo much! its such an awesome town and i promise you will love it! I moved from Charleston to Dallas for a job and thats where i met my fiance! things happen for a reason! we then moved to Chicago about 8 weeks ago so he could take a job… booooo………. i have moved all over the country and this has been one the hardest moves ever! i left my bridesmaids in Dallas, my family is from western NY state and i am pretty much alone! again… craft stores alone, planning alone, about to get dress altered alone, i am gonna have to take pics so someone can figure out the bustle! arggggg!! i know things are rough and i feel it everyday! but its nice to have this site and my friends ( even though by phone) have been nothing but supportive! atleast you are not at 9 degrees cold! you have an ocean! lol  if you need suggestions for fun things to do or just to talk about the area, message me! i would be happy to help and make you feel not quite so alone! i am in your shoes!

Post # 9
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ijustrockout: those sound like some great ideas! I love the retro feel as well. Also I had a friend who had hers removed and the left side of her tongue was numb for about a year! That was quite a while ago though, for me they brought me back once a month until it was better. they probably would have stepped in before that long!

Post # 11
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ijustrockout: they will most likely do something about it way before a year! that was how long it took hers to completely heal on its own and it was a pretty extreme case. And it was the most awkward thing to kiss when I couldn’t feel half of my lower lip LOL and it still tingles a bit so it is super sensitive and when Fiance kisses me it tickles haha

Post # 12
223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’re definitely not the only one. I’m going it alone too… My closest friends/family are 700 miles away, and my best friend will be across an ocean for the last year before my wedding.

I grew up in NJ, so my family and most of my friends are there. I have been living in Santa Fe, NM for the last 7 years so all my recent/college friends are there. I made the HUGE decision about 2 months ago to move to Knoxville, TN to live with my fiance and his kids and plan our Tennessee wedding.

I know nobody here, except for my fiance. I have been going to bridal events by myself and have been really enjoying myself, but I think it will fade soon. My mom and best friend are coming down from NJ in the next few months for dress shopping but they are both busy so it will only be a weekend.

Not to mention my fiance’s ex-wife still lives here in town and is an unwelcome presence in my/our life… and I’m trying to adjust to being a stepmom to a 16 year old and a 3 year old (and I’m only 25!)… blah blah blah!!

So in other words… You’re not the only one. Hang in there. We can doooo eeeet!

Post # 13
16 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

Most of my friends are here in town w/ me, but I hate to drag them through everything so I feel like I’m doing most of my stuff alone. 

Also I feel like no except me really gets my style and I don’t want everyone picking my things for me. 

So I guess in a way I choose to do it alone, but it would be nice not to do it alone. 

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