(Closed) Feeling lonely without friends

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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297 posts
Helper bee

Same situation. Ugh. My last bff in my area moved four hours away. SO and I never socialize or go out. I’m hoping to be working full time soon after recently graduating from grad school (didn’t become very close with my classmates), so I’ll make some work friends at least. I do try to keep in touch regularly with my friend across the country, usually by talking online, on the phone when we are both commuting, or watching TV shows together and texting all about it. But I hear ya, it is tough making friends when you’re older and out of school!!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Kwista17:  I feel you. We moved two states away from all my friends and family and in the two years I’ve been here, I’ve met one person that I hang out with on a regular basis. 

Have you tried Meetup.com? they have all kinds of groups. 

Post # 6
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297 posts
Helper bee

Kwista17:  I work with kids, also!! Dying for girls nights 😉 😛

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Kwista17:  if you can find an activity you like, it should be fun. Also check out groupon or living social for wine and painting classes, etc. 

Fortunatly my Fiance is my BFF, but I 100% know about needing a girls night. 45 minutes isn’t to far. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Any couples you can double date with? Sometimes that’s the start of a friendship if you get along, like if it’s a friend of your Darling Husband or co-worker and his SO. There’s also local facebook groups (exchanges), and in my local ones I’ve seen some people post asking if anyone wants to do a group hangout for a certain activitiy, whether it’s for their kids or themselves (adults). I think it would be fun to host a “ladies potluck” or something like that so they can all bring some appetizers/snacks and just eat & drink wine. I personally just keep myself very busy and just do a day out with my best friend or double date with my SO’s friends maybe once every 2 weeks or so. A long time ago I signed up for the meetup,com and just browsed around but didn’t see anything in my area I would want to join. 
Maybe also try to pick up on a hobby or do an at-home business type of thing, that way it would be mcuh easier to find others with same interests by focusing on that specific hobby/activity. I went into photography and I’ve met a lot of people that way so I get to interact with people often. Before this I was very much in your situation, feeling like I was just going to go crazy feeling alone even though there’s people around me, I’m just not close to them.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In my first marriage, my ex was transferred every 12 months. You quickly learn to make new friends. There are nice people everywhere.You just need to put yourself in a  position to meet them. Go to Meetup groups. Do volunteer work. Take a class in something you interested in.

When you do meet people, suggest you get together or coffee after the activity. That gives you a chance to get to know each other and compare lives and interests.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

So this may sound crazy.. I actually made a nice friend off the platonic section on craigslist haha. She and I have a lot in common. Other than that sole person, I have a similar struggle as you.. for the time being.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Kwista17:  I’m lonely too 🙁 My Darling Husband is away at Basic Training and I don’t even know if he’s getting my letters. My best friend lives 3 hours away and I have 2 other really good friends where I live, but they work opposite shifts as me. It’s so hard to find time with them. Unfortunately I have no real advice from personal experience to give on making new friends. When my husband is done tech school we will be moving (probably to a different country) so I’ll have to make new friends too. Do you have any hobbies that have groups where you live? Or maybe taking some sort of class?

I really enjoy crochet and cooking. I also would like to learn a new language and get into ceramics. So maybe look into things like that? Maybe volunteer with something you like? Like an animal shelter? Sometimes I wish I was still in school lol. I miss it so much, it was so easy to get enough social time and meet people there.

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