(Closed) Feeling lonely

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1250 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Aw man thats really rough. I can sort of relate. I don’t live near any of my close friends or family, and have felt this way a bit too. Have you tried reaching out and letting people know how you feel? It can be hard to be involved for some people if they don’t know what you need. Its also really easy to get caught up in your own life, so your friends may not even know you need someone to talk to your wedding about. This hasn’t resolved the problem for me, but it HAS helped.

Post # 5
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

OMG I am SO with you.  I’m not having a destination wedding, but I’m having it in the town where Fiance and I live, which is NOT where any of our family, friends, etc. live.  So literally every guest is flying in from somewhere.  And no one in my family is here and no one in the bridal party is here.  So I’m doing everything on my own.  To top it off, my Fiance is in med school (getting his MD and his PhD at the same time) so I don’t really see him much either.  I totally get the lonely thing, and I definitely wish sometimes that someone besides me would care, just a little, about the wedding.  I mean, if I’m the only one who cares, why am I spending all this money on this huge party, right?  I just read someone’s post today about how this “trip down the aisle” wouldn’t be as much fun without their bridesmaids, and I got a little sad–I haven’t seen most of my bridesmaids since I got engaged and probably won’t see them except for the bachelorette and the wedding.  So, this is just a long winded way of saying you’re not alone!  I’m sorry you’re feeling bummed tonight!  ((hugs))

Post # 7
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1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Awwwww….I’m sorry! My FH is actually the one feeling you right now. We are both only children (I am estranged from my parents) and FH’s parents have been divorced since he was toddler. He is feeling blue today because his father shows no interest in the wedding. His mom had made a big deal when we first thought we were eloping and couldn’t believe her son would get married without his mother present. Now we have decided to have a wedding and ceremony and she could care less.

Oh wait. She offered to help by having someone supply macaroni and potato salad. Huh, okay, doesn’t really go with the Italian menu we have.

I feel bad really bad for him! 

Post # 8
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I can definately relate. My best friend (aside from fiance) lives in another state and she says she’s interested in helping me and stuff, but can’t-nor does she bring it up. You see I’ve been down this planning road before, but we cancelled the wedding 3months before walking the aisle. Fiance is sick currently and to be honest doesn’t get involved unless it involves music or his groomsmen. My other bridesmaids are family who really doesn’t care because they’re involved in their own lives. 2 other bridesmaids are friends who barely talk to me (and I regret asking to be in my wedding because since then she has stopped talking to me) or is way to into being depressed (she got in an affair with a guy who got married a few months ago) to offer suggestions. My mother whom I actually live with gets a sour look on her face anytime I say anything about the wedding. If she got her way my fiance would drop off the face of the planet and I would never date again so I could stay with her (she’s the one who talked us into postponeing from our original date). My grandma has Alzhiemers and doesn’t even recognize me. My dad is your typical man- he’s just gonna show up day of for pictures and to walk me down the aisle. The only one that seems interested in the wedding plans are my fiance’s grandmother.  You’re definately not alone as long as you’ve got WB you have friends here. 🙂

Post # 9
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Have you tried community groups?? to network? I found by joining a local volleyball team (even tho the thought of me playing volleyball is hilarious!) it helped me meet a few of the local girls. Even tho we dont ‘hang out’ all the time its good to interact. Ive since met lots of people here but im not the really outgoing type but Im not too shy. As much as I love my FH I need girl time!

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