(Closed) Feeling lost.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Newbee

Well personally, i’m just not into weddings.  i recently got engaged and if someone notices my ring, i turn bright red.  i also have confidence issues.  i’m 30 and feel old and like no one cares anymore if i get married…that’s partially because they don’t.  anyway, i recently started taking kickboxing classes.  they help give me confidence.  they just help me feel more strong and ready to take on the world.  i’d suggest doing something that makes you feel strong and confident – whther that be yoga, or dance lessons, or going for a run, or even building something, or painting.  whatever makes you feel strong and confident.  you’re only 27.  you’re younger than the average marrying age in the US…28, so you really shouldn’t feel old. get empowered.  that’s my advice.

Post # 19
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Busy bee

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dulci :  echoing what MrsBaconBear  asked.. ru a UK bee? I’m based in UK and like you, my SO is a number guy. You’re young compare to me. By the time we have our church ceremony next year, I’d be 36! We initially aimed for £5k budget.. it’s possible if you plan a more DIY based wedding. We will be skipping sit-down reception but shall have tea and cakes after mass.. i was appalled how expensive wedding dresses are! Went for two dress appointments, zoomed in on the style I liked and I checked on pre-owned dress websites. Got mine for ~£200!! SO will wear his dad’s M&S suit which was meant to go to charity shop due to the colour. I was thinking of that exact colour so it was a perfect match!!! I bought shoes etc… So far the most expensive bit is our photographer.. but I insisted we will have one.. I’ll have pro MUA and hairstylist. We’ll be baking our own cakes and doing our own flowers… my relationship with my mother is strained, still ok… but dad has passed away for 9 years now. Might decide to walk down the aisle myself instead of asking my brother. We aren’t the closest. I might not have a bridesmaid and SO isn’t the biggest fan of groomsmen.. we’re here for you, bee! Remember, you’re beautiful! x

Post # 20
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Have you considered a destination wedding with just a few close family members there?  I knew that I didn’t have the attention span or patience for any of the supposedly critical details that the wedding industry thinks are soooo important.  The place we had our Destination Wedding sold wedding packages and had a full-time on site coordinator.  I think lots of resorts do. We picked the package we wanted and that was the bulk of the planning done in one step.  There were a few things I wanted to change, like the flowers, but because there was an onsite coordinator I emailed her, she told me the cost of my changes, and I either agreed or not.  Very simple, no stress and it was beautiful!!! Destination Wedding aren’t necessarily as expensive as you think since you have a really small guest list, especially if you go somewhere that things are cheaper like the Carribean (or maybe Spain, since you’re in Europe).

Also, if you want a tea length dress, forget bridal shops.  Buy a cocktail dress in white (or any other colour that makes you feel beautiful.) You’ll save a bundle and be able to try on your dress in your size and take it home, instead of attempting to try on a size 10 that’s really a 6 (I’m sorry, but whoever decided 10 was a good sample size is just cruel) and then waiting 6+ months to see your real dress.

Post # 23
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Busy bee

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dulci :  aww mann… I typed everything and it disappeared!! No worries, I’m on the bus with SO to Heathrow at the mo. He’s off to US to start his new job so I’m sending him off. I’m based at Cambridge at the mo and will be organising our church wedding here. Trying to sort everything out as much as I could before I fly off to join him. We decided to be married where we met 🙂 my friend had a DIY wedding for £3k, French wine included. But his whole family helped out and he rented a villa on Norfolk coast for it. I’ve got a friend with ginger hair and she looked absolutely stunning on her wedding day. Buzz whenever k xx

Post # 24
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Busy bee

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honeylemon818 :  I agree. Take a step back, let things setting and decide what is best for you. It will come to you I think. If all else fails there’s always eloping.

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