- 4 years ago
Not sure what to do.
Hi I’ve been looking for a while and something came up with me and I’d like some advice.
I’m a little confused.. When I was my husband’s girlfriend we had a fantastic relationship in the bedroom. I was really proud of what we had. Then we became engaged and then got married and right around when we got married I got really really sick.
Now let me tell you a little bit about what happened with me getting sick
Now I’ve been married since the begin of Feb of this year. I’ve been going back and forth to the hospital and haven’t had much answer of anything. I’ve had tons of test done and a few procedures. I’ve been throwing up constantly for over two months a couple of times a day. I’ve recently started to throw up blood. Not a lot. It’s a few specs, but it’s something.
It’s hard for me to work since most of the time I’m in the bathroom, so I have to call out a lot, which my husband isn’t really thrilled on that. He says to try and go to work and stay as long as I can, which I do and then I end up getting sent home. My work is understand and knows I’m really sick.
I only work part time about 37 hours with one day off a week which is Wednesday and then I have Sunday off because we are closed. I told him while I was sick I was going to talk to my boss and ask her to cut back on my hours and give me less hours or shorter days to make it easier on me to see if that would help, so I wouldn’t have to suffer thru a whole 8 hour day, instead of calling out. I feel as though that would look better then calling out.
He didn’t have much to say on that except that he feels a lot of pressure on him that he’ll have to work more because of the bills me have and because he has a new truck and so do I that we both got last year when I was never sick.
I told him I was sorry that I made him feel that way. He said he was sorry and that he wishes he could make me feel better, but he doesn’t know what to do.
Then I have family members asking me why he hasn’t gone to the doctors with me at all since I’ve become this sick and my doctor asked me yesterday why hasn’t he come. I just never thought to ask him and I knew because he was busy working…
What bothers me the most is our sexual relationship since we got married isn’t the same anymore. I know I’m sick, but there are good days that I have and it’s like we don’t do anything anymore and I’ve talked to him about it and he doesn’t say much to me about it. I feel like I’ve done something wrong or like he’s getting it from someone else. I don’t think he’s that type of person at all, but I feel so left out and unwanted.
Our day goes like this. He goes to work, I go to work (well at least try) come home make dinner and then we watch tv or will work outside on something until its time for bed.
I try to start the first move, but that doesn’t seem to work anymore. L
I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel so hurt and I’m just sick of being sick.
Thanks for listening and sorry this is so long