Feeling lost, did I make a mistake?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m not sure if this can be overcome. Especially if you both hold firm religious beliefs and are unwilling to have your children raised in anything other than your own religion.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

lizardblizz17 :  I’m failing to see the part where he treated you like a queen when you came second and third, and were expected to compromise on important things to you instead of compromising together. This doesn’t seem conducive to being treated like a queen. 

You need to break all contact. If you were meant to be together, you’d be able to overcome the reasons you broke up and BOTH compromise on a good fit for your would be family. After three years, you are still unable to do that. 

You can’t make room for someone new in your life when you’re still caught up in the past. Time to let go and give someone else a chance. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Sorry bee but just one of those issues is reason enough to end the relationship and you’ve got 4.  That’s more than enough reason in my book.  Just because there’s great chemistry does not mean he’s the right person for you.   So my suggestion is for you to walk away from this and have no contact whatsoever with your ex.  That means you ignore any attempts by him to contact you.  Give yourself time to grieve and discover what you really need in a relationship.  Good luck bee.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Love is compromise, love is trying to protect the other person and make sure they’re happy. He doesn’t love you, he loves himself. He lusts for you.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Based on what you wrote, I don’t see why you want to be with him so bad? And the fact that you’ve broken up three times is a red flag. 

You probably feel like you made a mistake because you’re comfortable with him. You were together for a long time and have a history. Leaving that comfort zone and entering into the unknown is scary. I’ve been there before. You have to remember the reasons why you broke up in the first place. You’ll find someone that you’re more compatible with, and you’ll be soooo thankful it didn’t work out with your ex!!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Definitely cut all contact with him and move on. Communicating with him and breaking it off over and over is not healthy and you can never truly move past this until he is out of your life for good.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

lizardblizz17 :  I’ve had that feeling before, so I get it. But you have to try and put that out of your mind as much as you can.

I broke off an engagement at 32, and am now engaged to an amazing (different) man at 33!! I am soooo thankful it didn’t work out with my ex. The new guy exceeds what I was looking for in an amazing husband!

It WILL get better!! 32 is not old!!!!

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