Post # 1
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Newbee
I’ve never written a post before, but here we go. I am getting no help making decisions when it comes to what people wear at my wedding. Anytime I ask for opinions from family or friends, I get “It’s your wedding! We’ll wear whatever you choose!” responses and I’m frustrated.
I’m getting married this October in Indianapolis. It’ll be casual with an outdoor ceremony. The colors are typical autumn/fall colors (cranberry red, orange, eggplant, sunflower yellow). I know there will be sunflowers and monarch butterflies in the decor.
My dress is this one:
I’ll be carrying a multi-colored brooch bouquet with a base/background of white silk hydrangeas. Since my engagement ring is a white gold and black diamond solitaire, I’m going to wear a black necklace to match (along with simple black diamond stud earrings):
Bridesmaid dresses (maybe with a wrap/pashmina of some kind, not sure of the color?):
The groom does not want to wear a tux, bowtie, or suspenders but he’s open to pretty much anything else. I also have a “man of honor” who I’m not sure how to dress either. And I’m CLUELESS about what either one should wear! I don’t want this to look like a hot mess. I’d like your HONEST opinion and suggestions, please!
Post # 3
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Busy bee
@nikkiweds: I think the dress is really pretty, and I’d be happy to wear that as a bridesmaid. Your man of honor could wear a suit of whatever color the other guys are wearing, a white shirt, and a tie/bowtie to match the orange/red of the dress?
Post # 4
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Newbee
@jdhall89: Thanks for your suggestion! What do you think I could do to differentiate the groom from the groomsmen if I have the man of honor in a colored tie? A colored shirt, maybe?
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
@nikkiweds: Everyone will know that the groom is the one standing next to the bride.
Do I understand correctly that the groom is willing to wear a suit? If so,I think he would look great in a charcoal suit. He can wear a white shirt and a tie that brings in the autumn colors.
The groomsmen and the man of honor could wear the same suit and white shirt, but wear a different tie. If you like the look they can even all wear different ties.
Post # 6
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Newbee
@julies1949: thanks for your suggestion! The groom does like the look of a gray suit. So you’d say all the males in a gray suit with white shirts, and then the groom has a different color-red tie? I like that idea. Thank you!
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
@nikkiweds: if your accent colour is black an the bridesmaids are red, I’d go black tie on the groom, red on the groomsmen.
And I LOVE the grey suit idea!! I want Fiance in a grey suit too. He wore one for my 60’s party and he looked sharp!!
Also, did you buy the bridesmaids dresses already? Are you wanting opinions on that or should I keep my lips closed? I will let you pick 😛
Eta: I love your dress!! Amazing!
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I love that bridesmaid’s dress. Perfect for an October wedding and will go very well with your dress. As for gray suits, my son’s wedding party (his wedding was late September and based around autumn colours) wore grey suits with dark orange ties. Looked really good I thought.
ETA – Here’s the picture I originally intended to post with it. Both of my sons, the younger one in the grey suit being Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 9
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Newbee
@lalalyanne: bridesmaid dresses are picked out, but not purchased. I’d love other suggestions/opinions. I don’t want anything too formal and there will only be two bridesmaid, so I’d prefer them to match (if I had more, I’d do mis-matched dresses). One is an apple-shaped size 18 and one is a pear-shaped size 8/10, so I’ve been having trouble finding matching dresses that aren’t too “bridesmaidy.” I love the idea of a patterned dress, love the fit-and-flare shape, and want to avoid chiffon or satin or taffeta.
Post # 10
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Newbee
@Steampunkbride: I love the orange and gray combiation. I wouldn’t have thought to do an orange like that, but the gray suit and white tie offset it nicely. The groom loves orange, so that’d be a great option. Thank you!
Post # 11
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Busy bee
@nikkiweds: I got some pretty strong opinions on my use of orange/black for an October wedding, but I ended up loving it. Nothing could have been easier to match. Sorry if the below pictures are huge.
Post # 12
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Newbee
@anonybee0810: Oh, I absolutely LOVE your pictures. I don’t think orange and black come across as “Halloween-y” the way you did it, very tasteful and understated.
Post # 13
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Newbee
@anonybee0810: I actually had really liked this dress of eShakti: (http://www.eshakti.com/Product/CL0030423/Illusion-bodice-poplin-dress) but was afraid of it looking like a Tim Burton wedding. But your pictures have me reconsidering it!
Post # 14
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Worker bee
If you’re doing boutonnieres for the guys, you can also use those to differnetiate between who is who!
Post # 15
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Newbee
@jpr: that’s an idea I hadn’t thought of; have all the groomsmen (plus my man of honor) with one color boutonniere and then a seperate color for the groom. Thanks!
Post # 16
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Worker bee
@nikkiweds: No problem! You could even do something like the groom with his own color tie and unique boutonniere, then the groomsmen in a different colored tie and boutonniere, with your man of honor having the same groomsmen tie but maybe a different boutonniere, if you want him to have something unique?