(Closed) Feeling MAJOR Anxiety :(

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Meant2Bee:  Change creates chaos, even good change.  Just hang in there and keep thinking about how disappointed you would be in yourself if you didn’t at least try doing this.  Remember, it’s not forever, and if you hate it, you can always go home.  

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

With law school stick around until after the first year at least.  The first semester is the most difficult because they are trying to weed out the people who really aren’t interested in being there to learn.  The first exam grades were an eye opening experience.  I called my mom crying and saying I wasn’t cut out for law school and that I was going to fail out.  My mom asked what everyone else’s grades looked like and I realized that they were all pretty terrible so I must not be that bad of a law student.

It’s difficult but rewarding, especially if it’s truly what you want to do in life.  I love my job but I know a lot of attorneys that absolutely hate their jobs.  It’s a lot of money to spend only to realize that it’s not truly what you want to do in life.  People don’t come to talk to attorneys because they are having a great day and want to share.  They come to us at their worst, when they have nowhere else to turn and nobody else can help them.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I feel the same way, but with nursing school. I had to pay for my seat for Jan. 2014. I wont be allowed to work more than 20 hrs a week, and FH will be looking for teaching jobs. we’re getting married Next june, but I’m so worried the timing will be off and we will have a really hard time with this arrangment. I’m trying to be excited that I am taking a risk by going back to school to better our futures, but I feel guilty alot of the finances will be on my FH shoulders. Agh! I’m learning how to look at the positives, your FH is supporting you and that’s fantastic! you are living out your dream and you are making positive changes! Don’t let the anxiety and the fear take away from the excitment. Things may be a struggle for a bit, but it’ll all work out! This is going to be a huge accomplishment and in 10 years, you’ll look back and be so proud of yourself. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@beachbride1216:  All of this!

I love being a lawyer now, but honestly, I think it will be a lot herder 3-4 years from now for new graduates because the job market is so terrible. My best advice would be to just stick it out if it is really what you want to do. The first semester really is the hardest, and it just gets exponentially easier from there. Make sure you work your ass of to stay in the top of your class, because these days, the market is so competitive, I know a lot of recent graduates without jobs. I don’t mean to scare you, I just wish someone would have told me all of these things before I started law school. It’s way harder to come back from a bad first semester than it is to just start out working your ass off.

Good luck with everything!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@LilliePad:  Absolutely.  Do it because you love it, not because you think you’re going to make a lot of money because I know a lot of unemployed and underemployed law grads out there.  I was one for over two years after graduation and I even had a judicial internship with a well-known local judge under my belt.  If you love it, you will stick it out and make it work.  I took two jobs I didn’t like to build up enough experience to take my current job which I love.  I don’t make a lot of money but I am comfortable and I have a great benefits package.  Definitely not the glamorous attorney lifestyle they sell on TV though.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Meant2Bee:  you should read the book called “1L Of A Ride.” It is a great book about what to expect your first year, and it’s a quick and easy read.

Also, keep in mind that law school is not like college at all. I don’t just mean that it’s harder, I also mean the atmosphere is totally different. It’s almost like high school. You first all of your first year classes with the same people, and all your classes are in the same building. We even had lockers (and I think most schools do) but with the high school atmosphere comes the high school drama. People may think that law students are above all that, but oh my God we are not! Your business is everyone’s business. I went to a smaller school (about 150 per class), and most people who go to small schools like mine have this same experience, but it might be different if you go to a huge school. So don’t get caught up in all the drama! It’s also different because all the classes are weighted, so your grades depend not only on how well you do, but also how everyone else does. That took a while to get used to.

 

Also, you’ll meet people very fast since you’ll have all your classes with the same people your first year, so make a small group of friends that you can study with. My best friends to this day are all people I met in law school.

 

My last piece of advice would be to treat it like a full time job. Don’t go home between classes, and resist the temptation to speed home immediately after your last class. You will have a LOT of reading every day, so do your reading at school between classes and after your last class. People think law student are up all night reading every night, and that’s not true (until finals). The only people who are up all night reading are the people who have time management issues. There will be plenty of time during the day to get your reading done during the day if you use all your time wisely. I went to school at 8 every morning and did my reading for the next day between classes and after classes, but I was always done at 5 and could go home and enjoy my evening. I would suggest not doing homework at home if you can avoid it. I did all my work at school because I didn’t want to associate my home with work (don’t worry, there will be tons of people there all the time).

 

It’s nice to have the evenings off, because there are a LOT of law school events in the evenings that I would strongly suggest you attend, because they are a blast and that’s how you will make your friends. 

 

Law school was a blast for me, and I hope you have a great experience like I did. You’ll be surprised how naturally everything comes to you. 

 

Sorry for the lecture! Good luck with everything! If you have any other questions please feel free to message me, I’d be happy to help! I just graduated law school in May 2012 so it’s all very fresh in my mind lol.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@LilliePad:  I just read the post you linked and wow… I didn’t know it was quite so bad for law graduates! Makes me think I made the right decision to not go to law school (was considering it).

To the OP: Any change is daunting. Of course you’ll be afraid. I guess now would be a good time to figure out if you’re just having anxiety because of changes and the newness of it all, or if you have serious doubts (like LilliePad’s post outlines). There are also jobs available to lawyers who don’t practice law per se, so even if you hate it, there is hope.

 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Meant2Bee:  I totally understand. I’ve been there. Change is scary. Going to a DC law school is scarier 🙂 (Which one are you going to– I’ve been there and can give you advice). Just try to focus on the step by step and it is a lot less overwhelming than the big picture. 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@canarydiamond:  yeah it’s pretty bad out there, but it sounds like OP has a passion for it.  It’s not impossible to be successful, you just have to want it more than anything. You have to basically put law school and work afterwards above all your relationships, free time, and family. It sucks but if its what you love doing, you should do it. I would just recommend people shadowing a lawyer before going to law school, because a lot of people think that lawyers do something’s totally different than they really do. All we do is write write write, and deal with terrible people lol. I’m a litigation associate, which basically means civil trial attorney, and I’ve never been to court. Not because I’m new, but because non of my cases have ever gone to trial. In reality, only about 2% of cases actually go to trial, so if you’re lucky, you might go to trial once or twice a year. Transactional lawyers literally never go to trial. It just breaks my heart when people go to law school thinking they will be doing one thing, when in reality they’ll be doing something totally different, because that’s how we end up with all these unhappy lawyers. It’s not their fault, though. Movies and TV really glamorize the lifestyle of lawyers, as well as the actual work. If a movie crew followed me around for an entire year at my job, they would never make it into a movie. It would be so boring to watch lol.

 

@Meant2Bee:  No problem! I wish someone was there to tell me all these things when I started school, so I just want to pass on any advice I can. One more piece of advice: don’t get stuck on one type of law you think you want to practice, because it will change! I went to law school because I wanted to be a prosecutor, but I changed my mind and now I’m doing what I love, which is the exact opposite of that (civil defense). I don’t think I know anyone who is actually practicing in the area they thought they wanted to when they came to law school. Go in with an open mind and take a variety of classes your second and third year so you can explore different areas And find out what you really want to do. Don’t feel pressured into getting a “concentration” which is basically like a major in college). They do more harm than good, in my experience. You don’t want to get yourself pinned down into one area. To successfully practice law, you’ll need a wide variety of experience, and concentrations basically force you into taking a bunch of the same type of classes. Law firms do not give two shits about any concentration you have, all they care about are your grades and class rank. Being on a Journal is good, too, as far as job prospects go (you’ll know what that means when you get into school).  

 

One more thing (Sorry, I know I said that before, but this is the last one, I promise!). I don’t know if your school will do this, but a lot of them offer a summer program for incoming 1Ls that takes place a week or two before school starts. You go to mock classes and they teach you how to read and brief cases. If your school offers this, please do it! It isn’t graded, so there’s no pressure, and they are usually free. This will give you a head start ahead of your classmates, and the first day of school will be so much less stressful because you’ll know exactly what to expect. You’ll also meet people, which means you’ll already know a lot of people in your class by the time school starts, which makes a huge difference. I met my Maid/Matron of Honor and most of my bridesmaids during this summer program. They usually have limited space, though, so if your school does this, make sure you sign up as soon as you can!

 

Ok I’m done, I promise haha! 

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