- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015 - Thorpewood
Ok, I don’t really expect sympathy or anything. I’m truly just whining. But, I needed to get it out so here goes:
My boyfriend started working full time about two weeks ago. Because it’s the summer and I’m off of school right now, I’ve been picking up more chores around the apartment. It seems kind of mean to leave him a to-do list when I’ve been sitting around for most of the day. I do have a job but it’s just part time. NBD.
But now I’m starting to get a little annoyed. I mean, I cook dinner every night. I clean everything. I do all of the laundry. I’m not kidding when I say he doesn’t do anything around the house. It’s starting to really bug me. When I was in school, I had a full class load, an internship, my part time job, a research assistant position, and I was involved in my co-ed fraternity. I still did most of the housework and cooking. Now that our roles are reversed and he’s the more busy one, I had decided to be super girlfriend (we live together, btw, in case you couldn’t tell) but now I’m like “…you weren’t super boyfriend when I was insanely busy so I don’t really know why I’m super girlfriend now.” I’d also like to point out while I was in school, my SO didn’t have a job and wasn’t in school. He was literally home. All day. And yet I still did most of the work, despite be talking to him multiple times about wanting him to do more.
I know I should talk to him about helping more but if he wasn’t more helpful before when he was free as a bird, I doubt he’ll be more willing now. And it’s not that he’s a jerk. He’s just severely ADD and his mother always did all of this chores for him. He never had to load the dishwasher or make his bed or clean a bathroom. He was spoiled. So now it’s like when those things need to be done, they aren’t even on his radar (which makes me incredibly annoyed with his mother but that’s something else completely).
Now…tonight. SO hasn’t said anything to me for the past two weeks about how I’ve been doing all of the cooking/cleaning. I’m not really doing it for a ‘thank you’ but that doesn’t mean gratitude isn’t appreciated. You know?
He’s been playing a lot of video games lately too and, normally that doesn’t bother me at all, but today it seems like he’s not even around. I’ll be talking to him and he doesn’t respond. It’s like he doesn’t even hear me, even though I know he can (probably a case of selective hearing). I cooked him dinner tonight and he was so busy gaming that he didn’t even eat. If he wasn’t going to eat, I wouldn’t have bothered making dinner. Trust me, after cooking every night, I’m more than ready to have a bowl of cereal or something.
I’m just feeling under appreciated and neglected. I asked him how his day was and he didn’t do the same back. He’s very, very rarely inconsiderate and this is a total fluke but still. I’m just feeling blah tonight.
Like I said, I’m not really expecting sympathy. I know I have a great SO and there are way worse situations I could be in. It’s just one of those nights.