Post # 1
Ok so when I get home from work I usually change into something comfy and then closer to bed I’ll wash my face off. Does anyone feel like when they’re at home with your SO that you don’t feel pretty? I mean I know he’s marrying me for a reason but sometimes I feel like a hot mess when my hair is all up and I’m in sweats. He says he doesn’t care but guys don’t ever care about anything. I just dont feel comfortable sometimes like I always have to be super pretty. Anyone else?
Post # 3
@Lauren10.8.11: I know what you mean. But isnt that what the weekends and date nights are for? It’s not like Darling Husband is doing his hair in the afternoon and continuing to wear his khakis and button up! He changes into sweats and a T or sometimes just boxers too!
Post # 4
I totally know what you mean. V-neck t-shirts and tanks are my best friend. It gives me a little cleavage so I can be sexy AND comfy! And every once in awhile, instead of sweats, slip into something a little sexier. He’ll be surprised and remember how sexy you are! 🙂
Post # 5
Part of intimacy is feeling comfortable around each other. He doesn’t find you less attractive because you are in comfy clothes, I promise!
Post # 6
Girl I am the same way!! If I am at home I am in shorts and a tshirt…sometimes just his tshirt. It feels great to be in a relationship where I know it doesn’t matter. He loves me all done up and he loves me with my hair on top of my head in comfy clothes 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks guys, I really appreciate it. I’m a very self-consious person so it’s hard sometimes, especially when you’re having a fat/not pretty/bad hair day. Good to know I’m not the only one who feels like this. @hollygowedding: I have just about every color of tank and cheer shorts, so this is what I wear most of the time, that made me laugh : )
Post # 8
You could always just be naked instead of in your comfy clothes. I’m sure he would think he was the luckiest man alive. 😉
Post # 9
I am waiting to see how long this unemployment lasts and wear sweats at least half the week. I still get jumped when he gets home a fair amount. But I know exactly how you feel, it’s nice to feel pretty for yourself.
Post # 10
I was recently thinking the same thing. My husband and I just started living together after the wedding, so being around each other 24/7 is still very new! I’m used to having time to make myself look at least a little bit nice for him. But now, when I get home from work, I’m tired of being dressed up and just change into comfy clothes. So I know just what you mean.
The great thing is…our guys find us attractive pretty much no matter what we’re wearing. For example, yesterday, I was painting a piece of furniture to match our bedroom colors, so I put on an old t-shirt and pair of shorts that I wouldn’t mind getting paint on. My husband couldn’t stop telling me how attractive he thought I looked. I thought that was ridiculous. But my husband isn’t the type to give empty praise.
So I guess what I’m trying to say is that our guys see us VERY differently than we see ourselves, which I think is a really great thing.
And if it’s a matter of how you feel rather than what he thinks, I like what previous posters said about finding clothes that are comfy but also make you FEEL kinda pretty, too. 🙂
Post # 11
Hear you on that — I live in ripped jeans and paint stained t’s (SAHM/artist/mostly solo-renovator here) so I often feel un-pretty (in my head) but in an instant my husband can make me feel 1000x better just by making a comment, or playing grab-ass as he is known to do.
Definitely find an excuse to doll up every now and then while you are together, whether it is a date night [at home or out], dinner with friends or drinks at your favourite lounge/bar — it will probably make you feel better about yurself and will help keep your relationship fun and exciting.
Post # 12
You should watch “Perfect Couples” I believe the episodes name was called Perfect Ten. It is about exactly what you are talking about. I spoke with my fiance about this because I come home – strip down into some nasty clothes and strip off any ounce of makeup immediately. My face is then blotchy and red and I look like a hott mess.
He mentioned to me not too long ago that he wished I would try a little bit more. So, I do now. I actually got rid of my “if I were 50 lbs heavier these would totally fit” sweatpants and the t-shirts that I bought strictly because they were so large on me that you couldn’t even tell if I had boobs or not. So, with that being said – there are things you can do AND still feel “comfy”.
1. Purchase CUTE comfy clothes
2. When you get home and take off your makeup – put on a moisturizer (sometimes tinted if you are like me with blotchy spots). My man actually prefers me without makeup.
3. Spritz on some girly body splash to scream – I am a girl! I smell good!
4. Make sure your toe nails are polished and look good. With my fiance – his biggest pet peeve was not only did I let me wardrobe go and my makeup – I also didn’t keep up on the toes.
Now – everything about me screams girl and pretty. Good luck 🙂
Post # 13
Darling Husband fell in love with me wearing no make-up and with my hair in a ponytail (because more often than not, that is how they are). He certainly had no expectations of that changing after we got married. He still finds me just as sexy as when I’m in a nice dress and heels.
Just like I still find him sexy when he lounges around in his boxers and a white undershirt.
Post # 14
Aw you guys are all so sweet. Now that I think about it, he’s known me my whole life looking grungy. We both drag race and that’s when you look your worst, becuase you’re sweaty and hot and sometimes greasy from the race cars. So I shouldn’t really think too much about it, and one time I was in my old high school sweats (I was painting) and he said I looked good.
Thanks for the reinforcement gals, again I really appreciate it!!
Post # 15
The first thing I do when I get home is take off my make up & change into shorts and a tshirt. He has never said anything about wanting me to try harder or anything. I wear my make up long enough, the last thing I want to do is have it on up until I go to bed when I’m just relaxing and watching tv, etc anyway
Post # 16
Haha just had this conversation with Darling Husband this morning. I work with a bunch of men and definitely don’t put much effort into how I look when I go to work. Business casual = khakis, a shirt that I’ve worn a million times before, flip flops, glasses and hair in a ponytail. No makeup, no effort to look cute at all. I realized though that he never gets to see me cute except on the weekends and that’s if we’re actually doing something. I rarely put on makeup or wear heels or even put in my contacts if we’re not doing something social. So I put a little more effort than usual into my outfit this morning and it just added a little something extra to my day. He’s the only one that noticed the extra effort but that’s all that matters 🙂