Post # 1
I’m a diy who has only been to 2 other weddings in my life. I have a litle less than 6 months till the wedding and have been feeling very overwhelmed this week with planning. I don’t have a wedding planner and am feeling like I’m overlooking a lot of details. The timeline for the day of started it and now I’m freaking out over everything. I feel like I’m forgetting stuff/things won’t happen/no one will have any fun. Any advice on what to do or wonderful thing online to use? How do I stop having such high expectations in my brain and just learn to love what I have?!
I feel like I have a list of neverneding tasks taht only gets longer intead of shorter. I moved to be closer to my long distance fiance and my parents moved to the other side of the country so I don’t have my bm’s or family here to help me. My fiance is great but doesn’t want to help me plan or work on projects.
Post # 3
@wisher558: Either your list is too long or it is disorganized and that is why you feel so overwhelmed.Write it all down and prioritize. Break it up into small tasks and larger tasks, so you can tackle them based on how much free time you have at the moment (instead of winding up with a few big tasks halfway accomplished and a bunch of smaller ones still not even started). Most of all, breath and relax. You still have 6 months.
Post # 4
@wisher558: Honey, breathe! First of all, you’ll be fine! Like Blue Peaches said, write it all down. Having it all in front of you makes it more manageable. As for what you need to remember, just search for wedding checklists and pick the one you like the most. We did this as soon as we were engaged, and it helped us keep track of what needed to be done. You don’t have to follow the schedule exactly, but at least you have something you can look at and say, “Done! What else?”
Your guests will have fun. They love you and your Fiance and are going to be so happy to be able to share your special day. As for the projects, you may end up having to drop some, and that’s okay. Just prioritize them. For example, I am making my own fabric and brooch flowers. I also want to make pomanders for centerpieces. At first, it was kind of overwhelming because I kept getting pulled in different directions, but Fiance sat me down and said that we could always do something way easier for the centerpieces in the end. He was right, so I am focusing on the flowers during actual crafting time. When I have a few free minutes here and there, I’ve also been cutting out the felt circles and gluing them into the fluff shape for my centerpieces. You’ll find your own groove.
Post # 5
Six months is plenty of time, =)! Just remember that the most important thing, and the only thing that really matters, about your wedding is that you and your Fiance are getting married. Everything else is just icing on the cake. People are not coming for the food or because you’re having a particular centerpiece or to see your guestbook. They are coming to see you two! You could probably show up to your wedding in your pjs, order a bunch of pizza from dominos, and everyone would still be happy they saw you!
I agree with PPs about getting organized. Write everything down in a list and organize it from most important to least important. Set aside a set amount of time to work on wedding stuff each day and just go down the list. Try to finish one thing before moving on to the next. That way you won’t feel so overwhelmed. It is easy to get wrapped up in all the DIY projects, but most of that stuff is completely unnecessary. Your guests will never remember whether you had paper pompanders.
I would also print off month calendars for the next six months and start putting things down. For instance, about 30 days before your wedding (I’m not sure the rules where you live), put down “Get marriage license!” Two months before your wedding, put down “Send out invites!” Then stick the calendars on your wall so you can see them every day and keep track of what is coming up next.
It might also help to have a corner of your house dedicated to wedding stuff. You can store all of your DIY there and that way everything is in one place and you won’t lose track of anything.
Good luck!! Everything is going to be fine!
Post # 6
@wisher558: I remember that feeling all too well but as another poster said, at the end of the day the most important thing is you marrying your Fiance.
Try not to get too caught up in the smaller details. People won’t remember all the decor and what your bridal party was wearing. Your friends and family will be happy to see you happy and attend your wedding. I think the most memorable things as a guest are seeing my loved ones get married in the ceremony, what the bride wore, and the food. I think that’s what people talk about the most.
At 6 months out, you want to make sure you have your dress ordered and bridesmaids dresses ordered. You also want to make sure you have your venue reserved, caterer booked and cake ordered. I got married in the slow season so I didn’t book my photographer and DJ until 3 months out but it might be necessary to book them sooner in the summer. Also, go ahead and get your officiant. Good luck and keep us posted!:-)
Post # 7
@wisher558: As others have said, Breathe! A few months ago I was freaking out that I would never get done. Break your lists down smaller. Accessories, Ceremony, Reception, Food, Etc….. Printing out checklists is a great idea. Or the Knot has one on their website and I just go on there and check things off. No need to keep up with another piece of paper!!
Start slow on your projects. Do what you can when you have time! I worked on things as I had time. My kitchen table is covered in wedding stuff. I just go sit and work for a bit. Everything doesn’t have to be finished today!
Post # 8
I have all of the big stuff taken care of so that’s a huge relief! I really am just worrying about the little things that no one will remember but for some reason I feel like it’s really important. I think I need to start going out and having some fun too to help.
I think I’m going to re-arrange my lists that I have to make it more manageable and not look so overwhelming.
Hope all of your planning is going well and you’re enjoying it!