Post # 1
I’m feeling completely overwhelmed at the moment. My financee isn’t doing anything I asked him to do 2 things and I’ve ended up working on one (getting the loan) and he’s still not done anything about requesting time off.
I just dunno what to do I have no one helping really and those who are throwing imput in are just critizing my choices.
No one likes any of my dress choices. No one likes the venue choices. I am even starting to reconsider my dress choice again even though I love it.
My dads making me feel horrible(even though i’m already seriously depressed) about not having him or my mum at the wedding but Dominic and I can barely afford the wedding let alone other peoples flights and hotels. So were not having anyone at the wedding.
I’m completely confused by the immigration paperwork we need to fill in and i’m worried about how the heck we register me with the army and go about getting housing.
I HAVE to get married in the US(but I’m a Canadian) and we both want it really soon (like May) just because of how long everything else is gonna take after. I don’t know if i just want a cheesy vegas wedding or still try to make it classy.
I just don’t know what to do I haven’t slept in about 2 weeks.
Post # 3
Hugs! I am sorry to hear that you are going through a stressful time. Your wedding should be what you and your fiance want it to be – if someone doesn
t like your dress or your choice of venue, too bad. Its not their wedding.
Post # 4
@Mylnn: Oh ek! You really are having a time of it aren’t you? You need a nice cup of tea, a lovely hot bath, and a long massage :-). Think you need to tell people how you’re feeling and maybe try breaking the wedding down into really small manageable daily goald so when you achieve them you get a small victory and feel more positive a bit at a time 🙂
Post # 5
Thank you both for your kind words.
Post # 6
@Mylnn: *HUGS* It sounds like you’re having a super rough time. I’m sorry you have to go through this. I read in one of your other posts that your parents can afford to come (YAY!). If you don’t want a cheesy, Vegas wedding DON’T do it…you’ll regret it later. What kind of wedding do you want. There’s lots of bees here (myself included) that will be more than happy to help you plan a day you can afford and enjoy.
Post # 7
I had to fill the immigration stuff out for my ex-husband (he’s since left the country). I can’t help with the army stuff, sorry 🙁 If all else fails, get on the phone to US immigration and ask them your questions; the best time to call is Tuesday-Thursday in the morning EST. I managed to get in touch with them and the guy was able to answer all of my questions.
TIP: Don’t go out of country until you get the immigration stuff entirely settled. People have married Americans on K-1 fiance visas, gone on honeymoons, and then been barred from re-entering the country. I don’t know if you’re going for citizenship or permanent residency, but a fiance visa won’t allow you to leave the country and come back into it. The permanent residency took about 4 months to go through for my ex-husband and then he was able to go to any country he wanted.
Before you leave Canada, can you have a small committment ceremony with your family there that has the trappings of a wedding without the legal stuff? Or you could only pay for your own tickets and if your parents want to come, they can pay for their tickets.
It sounds like you’re dealing with a ton of stuff, I’m sorry. Your Fiance is the one who is going to have to fill out the majority of that paperwork and honestly if I were you I’d sit him down and talk to him about how it’s stressful enough that you’re moving out of your home country and you would like to know you can count on him while you navigate a new place, and he starts showing that by doing these things now. Don’t be confrontational, he just needs to understand that it would take so much stress off of you if he would help out like this.
Post # 8
@HappierKate: Thanks. I’m not going down on a finacee visa luckily I’m going down marrying than returning home for the 8-12 months while the paperwork goes threw. My Fiance spoke to his 2lt and he told him that him being in the army usally expidites the process.
I’m extreamly excited my parents have decided they are going to take a loan out to come.